Physical attraction matters a lot!

[Kamal]

I just started the AM process. I'm not super tall for a girl, but I have a decent height and people say I'm attractive. Still, I'm really disappointed with the matches so far. About 8/10 guys I've met aren't physically attractive at all. I don't want to offend anyone, but I never expected it to be this tough. I can't even picture talking to them if I ran into them. Most of the men in their late 20s look quite unhealthy and out of shape. Why aren't people taking their health seriously these days? This whole process feels terrifying and I don't want to settle because my options are running low.

[Raghav]

I've been there too. My advice is to keep looking, because compromising after marriage will make things tough later.

[Esha]

I'm a 27‑year‑old male—how can I tell if I'm physically attractive?

[Cricfan]

The AM process does take time. There are physically fit men out there, and you'll meet them eventually. Just stay patient.

[Anjali]

I'm going through the same thing! People just don't care about this.

[Bhavana]

It works both ways! That's because the AM scene is quite transactional. Everyone wants the best option the market can give.

[Ansh]

You should know that most good‑looking men aren't on AM because they already get plenty of attention in the regular dating scene! Basically you're looking in the wrong place. AM is filled with men who are average or below average in looks and often conservative. So if physical attraction and a progressive mindset are must‑haves for you, you'd be better off in the regular dating world rather than AM.

[Sneha]

I'm 29, 5'11" and decent looking, with a good job. I want a simple wedding because I'm over the shallow, transactional wedding idea. I'd rather have a solid marriage than a fancy ceremony. Finding the right partner is my top priority right now as I focus on scaling my life. I'm also facing the same physical attraction concerns you mentioned.

If you want to get to know me, we can chat, maybe hop on a call for a proper conversation. Keep an open mind and see where it goes.

[Rahul]

Looks are a top priority, and you want everything to tick the boxes. I seriously wonder if you're truly looking to marry. Your expectations, which seem modest to you, don't match real‑world practicality.

Most guys your age are focused on earning and building their careers, often in a different city away from their comfort zone. That's the case for the majority. Think about this.

[Ishaan]

You can have preferences, but the ones you're looking for are extremely rare. You probably want a guy who's good‑looking, fit and rich, right? That kind of man is in the top 0.0001% of all men. They have plenty of options, and even if you land one, there's a high chance he'll cheat because they're not the commitment type—they get bored easily. The choice is yours now, so decide wisely.

[Menon]

I have the same issue, just with the opposite gender!