20F & 24M BF: No romance or flirting now

[Shivam]

So I'm in an LDR, eight months into the relationship. We were best friends for about seven-eight months. Whenever I try to start something romantic, he always says no. I think he's tired of romance and just isn't interested. He's not a red flag – he loves and respects me. A bit of background: his first relationship was with a girl he loved, then a sit-relationship, then a friends-with-benefits thing. After all that, he's become uninterested in romance, but this is my first relationship and I expect a lot of romance. Even when we meet, it feels very platonic. Am I not attractive enough? What should I do, chat?

[Aftab]

Once someone's been in a casual setup, they often separate emotions from sexual desire, making romance tough in a committed bond. That seems to be his case. There isn't much you can do; it might be best to move on rather than keep questioning your own attractiveness.

[Aditya]

You're heading for a painful outcome, trust me from experience.

His reply: "oh no, my steak is too juicy and the lobster is too buttery."

[Pillai]

He might have an impotence issue. Suggest seeing a good doctor for treatment.

[Advik]

Romance dried up in just eight months? That's a red flag in an LDR, bro. Talk to each other first.

[Chandni]

There's a good chance he's looking for intimacy elsewhere. I'm not 100% sure, but it's a common relationship killer when people hide it.

[Raj]

I couldn't deal with that either.

[Harini]

We sat down and had an awkward conversation.

[Cinemapicha]

You're still young enough to study; focus on that. There's a whole lifetime for romance—no rush.

[Arjit]

Long-distance relationships often struggle; maybe think about moving on. He may have already satisfied his online fantasy with you.

[Shanta]

If someone isn't eating roti at home, they probably went out and ate it elsewhere.