Irresponsible prospects – zero punctuality

[Ehsan]

I am a 33‑year‑old male.

We set a time to call – say 6 pm. I even tell them I have set an alarm. I text them thirty minutes before. They don't pick up. An hour later they say they were asleep.

We reschedule and the same thing repeats, only this time they're late by 30 minutes.

This has happened to me almost 50 times now; I'm sometimes surprised when it doesn't.

When we finally decide to meet, they are always at least 30 minutes late. I end up covering most of the distance while they think it's under 30 minutes. I've even travelled 1.5 hrs just to meet them.

Once I told a girl, who lived only 20 minutes away, that I had travelled 1.5 hrs because she was an hour late. She replied that her ex used to travel 500 km every second weekend to surprise her.

[James]

On calls I've faced this so many times that I'm no longer shocked when a woman can't answer on time. I've stopped letting it bother me because I make sure I'm busy with something else if she doesn't call.

If it keeps happening, it shows a lack of interest in the connection.

When someone is late for a meet without a valid reason and doesn't apologise, I never consider them again – immediate no. I haven't seen this from anyone else yet.

Entitled people can go fuck themselves.

[Suresh]

She said her ex used to travel 500 km every second weekend to surprise her.

Tell her to marry her ex then.

[James]

Someone who doesn't respect your time doesn't respect you.

[Shanta]

Don't value someone who doesn't value your time.

[Preeti]

If this keeps happening, it's a bad sign. I liked a girl who never respected my time and eventually she just ghosted me.

[Jagdish]

30F. You could try sending a message like, "If you're interested in taking this further, let's hop on a call at X pm. Let me know." If they don't reply, you have the answer. If they do, you can discuss shifting the slot.

I've had similar issues getting a call. I'm not patient enough to chat endlessly at this stage, so I insist on a call. I met two guys like that. With one, my suggested times never matched and he never offered alternatives, so I unmatched him. With the other, we fixed a slot but he replied two hours later saying he was out with friends. I ghosted him, no regrets. He didn't message again.

Sometimes a lack of response is a clear sign someone isn't interested – don't be too hard on yourself.

[Naresh]

So I'm facing the same thing. Whenever I message them on WhatsApp, they take 2–3 hours to reply.
I know everyone's busy, but you can spare ten seconds to reply, can't you?

[Vivek]

It really gets on my nerves when this happens. Everyone's busy and has a life, but if someone takes time out for you, they should show some respect!

By the way, I'm a female. It happens with women too.

[Adarsh]

It really gets on my nerves when this happens. Everyone's busy and has a life, but if someone takes time out for you, they should show some respect!

I'm a female, and it happens with women as well. It's not a gender issue, it's a people issue.

[Uday]

I always tell girls to pick a place near them, yet I end up waiting 15–20 minutes every time.