Advice needed: 31yo male, post-marriage sexual issues

[Sunita]

I'm a 31-year-old man, my wife is also 31. We dated for two years and married in 2025. It's been seven months now. She complains that we have less sex. We're intimate about three to four times a month. She says I should make a move when I see her in a special outfit or feeling aroused, which I don't do. Now she asks how she can meet her needs and even suggests she might get involved with someone else or that we should separate. What should I do? Is this normal or should I see a doctor?

[Aravind]

Cut down on watching too much porn.

[Chiranjit]

Three to four times a month is definitely low for a marriage that's only seven months old.

[Ritvik]

That's really low - at least twice a week would be the minimum. She might have a higher libido. Try to include more foreplay and oral sex.

[Kunal]

What was the frequency like when you were dating? Has anything changed since you got married?

[Imran]

It sounds like you have low libido. You might want to consult a doctor. Regular sport, training and a balanced diet can also help.

[Naveen]

If you're sure you're not asexual or gay, consider seeing a therapist and a sexologist to understand the reasons behind your low libido.

[Kalpana]

That's too little for a new marriage. Three to four times a week would be decent. Try to increase the frequency quickly before she looks elsewhere.

[Tanya]

If a woman posted this, most would back her up, saying he can't force you and all. Because it's posted by a man, we're giving reality checks, calling a spade a spade. Kudos to you for seeking feedback. However, I think it's unethical for her to blackmail you over a libido mismatch.

[Namrata]

Brother, the frequency is very low. I'd suggest seeing a doctor and improving your lifestyle, maybe hit the gym or play a sport. Your sexual expectations don't match, so try to consider your partner's needs as well. Don't stress too much.

[Anand]

You're still in the honeymoon phase, which should be your glory days. If you're lazy now, what will she expect later? So put in the effort for her.