Brother's definition of true love - need advice

Started by Tarun, Jun 26, 2026, 11:23 PM

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Tarun

My elder brother, 32M, works a private job earning 45k and lives with our parents. The house belongs to them but he acts like it's his. He recently said women have forgotten what true love is and he wants a woman who isn't a gold‑digger and loves him unconditionally.

I asked him what true love means to him. According to him, his dream girl should be 25, super pretty and fair‑skinned (we're all dark), love him without any demands, treat our parents like her own, do all house chores, give him two cute kids and be an ideal mother.

When I asked if he could afford two kids on his salary, he said the wife would also work.

Should I tell him?

# EDIT:
Clarification: He doesn't think gold‑diggers will chase him for his salary. He thinks any woman looking for a stable partner, a good lifestyle or a man who owns a house is a gold‑digger. Basically he believes women should have no expectations from their husbands. That's his ideal woman.

Neeraj


Varunesh

Don't tell him; you'll become the villain in his eyes.

Himani

He should serve his brother and the parents, then also work to bring in money - the modern twist. Maybe he should wait a few more years until AI bots can handle all that.

Menon


Naman

So true love = maid + cook + cleaner + caretaker + nanny + dowry giver + earner + bed warmer? Got it. Sorry to say, I feel bad for the girl who'll marry him - it's going to end badly. I hope someone knocks some sense into him because if he keeps this mindset he'll ruin an innocent's life. This isn't a joke; it's a serious issue. OP, you need to step in. He thinks he's a feminist icon just because he says he'll let her work.

Sandeep


Madhuri


Subhash

Every uncle I know who dreamed like that in their 30s ended up single, died of alcoholism, divorced early or never remarried, and stayed a loser because they think no one is ever good enough for them. Let him rot.

Swati

So he wants unconditional love but piles on a ton of conditions in the name of true love? Got it.

Shekar

If you post this on r/AskIndianMen, they'll probably say he's right and you're not a good sister.