Student (33F) pressuring me (27M) to marry - need professional handling

[Laksh]

I'm a 27-year-old male from Rajasthan, working as a maths teacher at a coaching centre. One of my current students is a 33-34-year-old woman preparing for the PGT exams; she already works as a government employee in the education department.

For some time now she keeps coming to me, saying that I must marry her within a maximum of 2-3 months. She says she spent her 'prime years' focusing on her career and competitive exams, and now feels a strong urge to get married. She told me she doesn't have time or patience for traditional dating and wants to skip straight to marriage.

I have absolutely no romantic interest in her, and I'm not comfortable marrying someone I barely know, especially under such pressure.

I want to deal with this in a professional way because she is my student, but her constant approaches are making me uncomfortable and disrupting the class. What should I do?

[Simran]

Tell her clearly and warn her that if she doesn't stop, you will report the matter to the coaching centre management.

[Arnav]

Just say no and tell her that, as her teacher, you see yourself more like a father figure.

[Usha]

Make a record of everything, brother, in case a fake case is filed later.

[Chetan]

Have a frank conversation and clear the air for your own peace of mind.

[Sumit]

First of all, be very careful. Indian laws tend to favour women in such disputes, so a few false allegations could damage your reputation, job and life, even if they are later dismissed.

Never meet her alone. Escalate the issue to the coaching-centre management and make it clear that you do not want any further contact. If she continues to pressurise you, consider going to the nearest police station and filing a pre-emptive complaint for harassment. It may feel awkward and the police might not take it seriously, but it's better than getting caught up in a fabricated legal battle later.

[Lakshmi]

Tell her, "I'm your teacher, you're like a daughter to me."

[Tanuja]

If she wants it in 2-3 months, maybe she's already pregnant and looking for a fall guy.

[Aarti]

Address her as 'didi'... Raksha Bandhan is coming up.

[Shivendra]

Just tell her you're gay and end the conversation.

[Ramesh]

Simply tell her that you already have a girlfriend and you'll be getting married soon.