I'm looking for some genuine feedback on what I'm expecting from marriage

[Falguni]

So here's what I'm looking for - a guy from Bangalore, around 31 to 35 years old, preferably from South India, working professionally, non-vegetarian, and someone who speaks good English, which is really important to me, from a decent family background, and someone who takes care of his fitness, and a non-smoker is a must. In terms of salary, my friends tell me he should be earning well or come from a financially stable background.  About me - I just turned 31, a South Indian girl from a good family in South Bangalore, my family has a good reputation, with army officers and well-known doctors, I'm very career-driven, really into fitness, and I'm tall and fair by Indian standards, I've also dated a few guys before, if that matters to you.  My job can get pretty demanding at times.  My family is exploring different options for marriage, and we're also considering marriage brokers, I'm not really into dating apps, they can be pretty exhausting.  On a side note, I think I'm good-looking.  To clear up any misconceptions, I come from a liberal and educated South Indian family, so being unmarried at 30 or 31 isn't a big deal.

[Anupama]

This is all quite superficial and doesn't really go into the important stuff, you'll probably find someone, but you might struggle with the little things, you need to think about values, personality, compatibility, and all that, your post doesn't really cover the things that truly matter, all the best though

[Vaishali]

I think your expectations are fair, but you need to be really clear about what you're looking for financially, you're being pretty vague about that, also, saying what your friends tell you sounds a bit cliched, you're in your early 30s, you should know what you want by now, you might not get everything you're looking for, that's just life, you'll have to make some compromises.  Also, you should add what kind of partner you're looking for, I don't know much about you apart from the fact that you're into fitness, there's so much more you could say, like what you like to do on the weekends, do you read, play sports, travel, cook, or anything like that, these things are more important than how well he speaks English or how much he earns

[Vikas]

Apart from coming from a good family, what do you bring to the table, if you don't mind me asking?

[Shankar]

I think compatibility is way more important than any of the things you mentioned, compatibility is hard to define, two ambitious people can have a tough time, at least one of them needs to be laid back, if you both come from wealthy families, it can be tough to adjust, ego issues can come up

[Nakul]

You should write a more detailed profile about yourself and what you're looking for, beyond the material stuff, it should be written in a way that people who don't fit the bill will just filter themselves out, what you've written here is more like a checklist than a character profile,  I found my fiance in a week, and it was because of my profile

[Sohan]

As someone who is also in their early 30s, from a well-off South Indian family in Bangalore, earns a good salary, speaks fluent English, non-vegetarian, non-smoker, and is fit, here's my honest feedback,  Having a good family background is important, personally, I don't care about the army and doctors part, but if they're good people, that's a big plus,  I and most of my friends tend to look for someone in their mid to late 20s, mainly because it gives us a few years to enjoy married life before having kids, but realistically, looks are more important than age, and even if I met someone my age who is really attractive, I wouldn't see that as a dealbreaker,  Your career ambitions aren't that important to me or my friends, there are more important things, being into fitness is a plus, but some of my friends enjoy the party scene, and views on past relationships vary from person to person,  Overall, I don't think your expectations are unrealistic, but it really comes down to your personality and how you look, the rest is just a bonus

[Firoz]

How much do you think your partner should earn in a year, I saw that you earn around 15-20 LPA in one of your comments

[Sarika]

I don't usually comment here, but I'll share this as a data point,  Guy: IIT grad, masters from a top US school, works for a top company, tall, fit, the whole package,  Girl 1: similar profile and expectations to yours, both were really interested,  Girl 2: not as impressive on paper, but seemed really sweet and easy-going, the guy thought life would be easier with her,  The guy ended up marrying Girl 2

[Vivek]

No high-value man cares about your job or your family background, a financially established man will probably go for the sweet and humble 25-year-old, not the 31-year-old strong independent woman who acts like a man, you're 31, it's time to stop making demands, maybe you should just marry your cousin

[Sagar]

So why are you thinking of an arranged marriage now?  You've mentioned that you've dated a few people in the past, so why not try that route again?  It seems like you've had more experience with dating, so the chances of finding a partner that way might be higher.