22F Unmarried Abortion & RPOC Issues

[Deepika]

I missed my period and took a pregnancy test after 9 days. The result was super quick and the line was dark within 5 seconds. But I was unsure which test to buy, if a midstream test would be reliable, or if it was too early to test. I already had an idea of my options, but it's different when you're facing it in reality. I looked for resources and within 2 hours, I was on my way to see the gynaecologist. I went alone and described my concerns. She suggested a scan. The doctor was straightforward and kind, but the hospital staff weren't. My doctor started scheduling appointments outside her usual hours, so the regular staff wouldn't be there. The pregnancy wasn't ectopic, so I went back for another appointment with a friend. I took the first tablet on a Monday and didn't feel anything. The misoprostol was on Wednesday, 2 vaginally and 2 orally. The pain was like period cramps, but more tolerable. It mostly subsided within 5 hours. Bleeding lasted around 6 days. I felt guilty and ashamed, but I didn't let it stop me from work or daily life. I had a follow-up scan after 2 weeks, which showed some retained products of conception. My doctor prescribed zitotec - 6 tablets, 3 doses with a 4-hour gap. I felt nauseous and drained, but no bleeding. My doctor said the remaining tissue might pass with my next period naturally, but if not, a D&C might be needed. I hope it resolves on its own. The procedure might go smoothly, but it's not over when the bleeding stops. For me, it's not over yet. I wasn't prepared for it to be complicated, which made it harder emotionally. The doctor said I might need to involve parents if a D&C is required, but I don't want to. If you're reading this, go to your follow-up scan and ask questions. Know that retained tissue is possible and can be managed. I don't regret getting an abortion, but I wouldn't put myself in that situation again.

[Komal]

Girl, I hope you're doing better now. I have no clue about this process, but your post was informative. Thanks for sharing. If it's okay, can you share the gynecologist details? There aren't many non-judgemental ones.

[Preeti]

OP I hope you're feeling better now. You have all my love and respect. You're lucky to have found a good gynae. I'm sure your post will help someone else. My DMs are open if you want to vent or talk.

[Anirudh]

Hope you're better now, god bless.

[Umesh]

Where was the guy during all this? No support or help from his end?

[Preeti]

I hope this resolves without a D&C. I understand not wanting to involve your parents, but your partner should share some responsibility and ideally support you through it.

[Monica]

My best friend went through this exact situation. Her boyfriend was hospitalized in a road accident at the same time, so we had to manage everything. She went through extreme pain, more than period pain. It was intolerable for her.

[Amar]

I know how you feel. My bf was with me and I went for D&C. I understand the mental trauma. I can only imagine how you felt doing all this alone. But be proud that you went through it alone and know exactly what you're doing. You will be fine.

[Naman]

Sweetheart! I'm so proud of you. You showed amazing strength and clarity. I hope this gets over quickly. You'll be fine.

[Gayatri]

Why are you all having sex without protection? Especially don't do it during your ovulation cycle!!!

[Pooja]

Having a non-judgemental gynec is great! Though it's their job, I'm grateful some docs don't judge. And run from the guy!!!!!