When will we break free from this colonial mindset?

[Ankita]

Today I came across a post where an Indian guy talked about how he and his white wife get stared at in public by Indian folks. Most of the replies said Indian women are jealous of his wife's looks. Bro, why would Indian women be jealous of a white girl's beauty? As an Indian woman I've seen plenty of gorgeous brown ladies, no matter their shade (okay, I'm a bit biased, hehe). I still can't get why there's such an obsession with white skin. When will this obsession end? And why do they think we're jealous?

[Shobha]

It's all the media hype that makes women think they must look a certain way, and it's worked. When will people realise the only look we need is a healthy one, not some sickly thin, white‑washed ideal???

[Shyam]

I'm half British and inherited my mother's Caucasian skin tone. I've been stared at a lot my whole life and it's annoying. At first I blamed my skin, but later I realised it's because I'm a woman.

I love brown‑skinned women – can't get enough of them. They look sun‑kissed and there's nothing to be jealous about. You all are goddesses.

The lower risk of skin cancer is a plus for me.

[Pillai]

White skin colour isn't equal to beauty.

[Tanmay]

I know, right? They probably just found the couple cute. Indians do have a staring habit, and we all know how some Indian men react when they see a white woman –‑ but yeah, a girl's smile isn't jealousy, okay buddy.

[Tarun]

Humans tend to point out differences and create arbitrary hierarchies. For example, a deaf student in a regular school is always labelled 'the deaf kid', whereas at a deaf school the same kid can be an athlete, artist, scientist, etc. In any group we constantly try to set ourselves apart, sometimes using trivial things like skin colour. I won't deny that darker‑skinned people face real discrimination, and the only way to stop that is for all of us to stop doing it. We all have a part to play, but let's not kid ourselves – even without skin colour, we'd find other reasons to rank each other. Truly, humans don't deserve this planet.

[Hardik]

Bruh, it's about features. White women get stared at because they look different, not because they're better – still not right, but the reasoning is different.

[Ashok]

Yeah, I saw that too. It's crazy how many men assume we're bothered by a guy dating a Caucasian woman. Seriously, us women are too busy with our own lives to even notice. We're always in demand, we're the prize. The girls who stared were probably just curious – interracial couples are rare in India, so seeing that in public can be surprising. Maybe they were just admiring how cute the couple looked, but some people always twist it to fit their own ideas about women.

[Simran]

And what exactly are we jealous of? That she ended up with a random Indian guy?

[Rahul]

They say that because they're sell‑outs. They feel inferior because of their skin tone and try to push that onto us. Your thoughts reflect your own self‑image.

Maybe a few women felt insecure, but not all of them – and that's not even counting how cheap some men are or how rare white people actually are in India.

I'd never want to be on the side of Reddit where you are. I'm happy in my little bubble where men like that don't exist.

[Vasant]

I'd just smile at a pretty woman, to be frank, that's what all women do. It's the usual male narrative that women hate each other and see each other as competition. In my experience, most women I know are supportive and genuinely praise each other. I've seen it many times.