Life easier if gay AM accepted by society

[Amitabh]

30-year-old male, pretty chill, good job, settled abroad (Australia). My only so‑called toxic trait is that I love brown men! Frankly, life would be so easy if gay AM were accepted.

[Aarohi]

You can find them on dating apps, bro. There are plenty, so it's easy to meet them there. Convincing your family, though, is a whole different story.

[Shyam]

That's not a toxic trait, it's just a preference. Wish you all the best!

[Keerthi]

To be fair, you don't fit into mainstream society, that's the reality.

[Asha]

Everyone is better off finding a partner on their own. All the best to you!

[Rupali]

A friend of mine had to leave India just because he's gay. He didn't want to go, but he couldn't be himself there. Now he's been happily married for over ten years to the brown man of his dreams, living safely and loved, far away from that old toxicity. It's painful how backward society can be, but I hope you find the strength to rise above the haters. All the best, OP – I hope you find your brown man!

[Pankaj]

Seeing all the women searching for arranged marriages makes me wish I also loved men.

[Sachin]

Let me tell you something, man. I used to be very anti‑gay because that's how I was raised in a tier‑4 city in India. Then I got a chance to go abroad and made friends from all walks of life. When I was a TA, a student offered me extra tickets to a game. I said I'd go, and he came with his family – two kids, him and his husband. At first I was shocked, but I'd left the hate behind. I ended up watching the kids more than the match; they were happy and it was a functional family. They'd adopted two kids and gave them space to grow. That experience changed my life, made me advocate for people and realise it's okay to have a preference. Most importantly, I saw they're normal people and shouldn't be treated any differently.

You'll find someone. Visit Seattle sometime – there are a lot of gay Indian men there.