19F just broke up with ex boyfriend

[Riya]

I'm a 19F studying in college and my ex‑boyfriend (19M) is also in college. We broke up a week ago. I'm usually the one who gets dumped, but this time he said he was even willing to think about a relationship after we graduate. For context, we come from different religions. We first agreed to at least try after graduating, but it shocked me to my core when I found out he had already decided not to and wasn't even considering trying. Towards the end I discovered he actually thought of me as "cheap" because I use a moderate amount of curses, which he also used to do. He tried to guilt‑trip me into eating beef a day or two before the break‑up, which was pretty messed up. I'm a total mess right now. Near the end I was the one chasing communication while he kept pulling back. It felt like he had decided I wasn't future‑wife material anymore.

[Jignesh]

It doesn't seem like the religion issue was the real problem any more. Once someone starts seeing you as "not future‑wife material," becomes judgmental about your personality and makes you chase basic communication, the relationship usually starts dying emotionally long before the actual break‑up. The beef thing feels oddly manipulative too, especially if he knew it would affect you emotionally. Also, the anxious chase‑vs‑retreat dynamic near the end probably hurt even more, because the more distant he became, the more you tried to fix or understand things while he was already mentally checking out. And someone calling you "cheap" for traits they themselves have is just plain hypocritical.

[Malini]

Sounds like a "mess around, find out" kind of situation. Hope he doesn't have any private photos or videos of you.

[Rakesh]

Good riddance, OP. It will hurt for a while, but it's better in the long run. Grieve, then move on. Focus on your studies and career.

[Pillai]

We are basically the same. My advice: everything happens for a reason. I'm sure you'll find a better partner than him. Always take care of yourself and focus on your goals. All the best.

[Firoz]

It stopped being a "religion issue" the moment he started disrespecting your boundaries and quietly judging you while still dating you. Secretly feeding someone food they stopped eating years ago is weird as hell, btw. That's not a "difference in values"; that's basic disrespect. Honestly, the relationship was probably over emotionally once you started chasing communication while he kept withdrawing. People often mentally check out long before the actual break‑up.