God works in mysterious ways - Saved from bad marriage

[Hema]

I'm a 30-year-old guy and after 8 months of searching for an arranged marriage, I finally found a 26-year-old match who seemed perfect. Our families knew each other, everything looked smooth, and I thought, 'This is it.' Our first meeting was a bit awkward but overall good. We both said yes and our families got excited quickly. During our second meeting, she mentioned a male colleague multiple times. I noticed her eyes lighting up when speaking about him, which made me uncomfortable, but I ignored it. The third meeting was beautiful - I travelled to her city with flowers, and we spent hours talking. The vibes were amazing, and she even gave me a farewell gift. But then she casually mentioned that her colleague was returning to work, and suddenly the timing of her extra attention made sense. The fourth meeting was a disaster - she seemed mentally absent and told me she'd fought with her colleague. That's when I realised she was emotionally invested in him. I ignored the red flag and comforted her, but later she didn't even text to ask if I'd reached home safely. Two days passed with almost no effort from her side. During another call, she started talking about a female colleague who was allegedly having an affair. She observed my reactions and then said, 'Even after marriage, you may also like someone else someday.' It felt like she was normalizing emotional attachment outside marriage. Meanwhile, our families were discussing dates and future plans, but then her mother called mine and said they don't want her to marry for at least 2 more years. That created tension, and the marriage proposal broke off. My heart sank for 2 weeks, but after some distance, I feel like God protected me from something that could have hurt me later. Sometimes rejection is not punishment, it's protection.

[Pranay]

Good god you got saved.

[Seema]

Not a happy ending I expected, but also not a bad ending which it could have been. Don't ignore red flags, they are called red flags for a reason.

[Shilpa]

I stopped reading after the 4th meeting... Because in the 2nd and 3rd meetings, she was interested in her colleague and didn't want to marry or was trying to be in a relationship with him. It's good you dodged a bullet before marriage.

[Larry]

Nice post, and I like how you took positivity from it. Whatever is meant for you always finds its way... God bless you.

[Riya]

She was hinting at you all the time, but you didn't catch on. So she took matters into her own hands and broke it off. You're not to blame, you're just new to the game some girls play. Take it as a lesson.

[Seema]

You were lucky, when you said you met her the third time and she was mentally absent, I was hoping you'd say no to this rishta... but you saw a girl and started ignoring all her red flags. Remember, it was your luck.

[Dinesh]

Similar thing happened to me, but I'm not able to move on. I don't have that strong of a connection with God like you do. Maybe time will heal, but the process is painful

[Ramesh]

She's not worth it.

[Sneha]

I really needed to read this today.

[Danny]

This was the script of my meetings with over 21+ women on arranged marriage. They already liked someone, were physical with someone, had kids, or aborted. You're yet to see the full psychological warfare. But I hope you don't. If you see God in this, you deserve a good wife.