Men don’t want to be treated like ATMs

[Hemant]

Been noticing this lately – men expect to be valued beyond what they earn, yet many don't contribute at home at all. They stay in messy bachelor pads, can't cook or clean, and don't know how to turn a house into a home. They're good at sports, hitting the gym and doing their job, but where's the care for the family? What does a guy like that bring to my life? What kind of father would he become? What kind of son? It's also a fault of their parents – enforcing strict gender roles creates men like this. If you don't want to be treated like an ATM, stop acting like one.

[Yash]

Interesting take, and kinda true for many men out there.

[Murali]

If your whole identity collapses without a paycheck, maybe the problem isn't women valuing money.

[Dhruv]

I was expecting more triggered ATM‑machine comments in this section... or maybe I'm too early, lol!

[Menon]

Ayyo, you definitely met the wrong set of men.

[Juhi]

Exactly my point – everyone is a package. Judging someone only on one trait is plain stupidity. Just like judging a girl solely on her looks is the same as judging a guy only on his earnings. Sadly, that's the narrative they've heard all their life. Parenting plays a role, but once you're past 20 and still playing dumb, the responsibility is on you, my friend.

[Nath]

100% agree. Like I said, if all you have is money, people will only chase the money. Many women would rather have a man with emotional intelligence, who takes charge of running the house, shares caregiving duties, treats women as equals in decisions, and works on his looks, than a guy who just has a bigger salary package.

[Tanuja]

Men don't know how to cook and clean? Maybe that's just the men in your family. Don't generalise. Men earn for the family, women earn for themselves – that's it.

[Lavanya]

So you think men who hit the gym and play sports add nothing? You want someone who cooks and cleans with you, lol. In an arranged marriage setup, keep expectations realistic or you'll end up disappointed. I respect people who work out and play sports – they lead an active lifestyle, take care of their health, and usually have a good mood, which reflects in how they treat you. A lazy guy or girl will always be dull and treat you poorly. Find someone who meets the criteria you listed instead of bashing all men. Everyone is different and has different priorities, so don't expect one person to be everything, lol.

[Ashok]

OMG, so damn true!

[Shivendra]

Money doesn't build personality; effort does. If you find men who don't bring the value you expect, just walk away. But you might need to stop seeing them as ATMs to actually find a guy who isn't just an ATM.