21F: Ignoring huge thing my 22M boyfriend did?

[Mohaideen]

It's been three months since I started dating a guy I met about six months ago while traveling. We exchanged numbers and he's been visiting me every one to two months. On his last visit we became intimate, and I was comfortable with it.

What shocked me was that he sent a picture of a condom packet to his friend on WhatsApp using the 'view once' feature. He had actually asked me if he should send it after his friend sent him a video of something he'd always wanted to see. I just wanted to be sure he'd use it himself, so I politely said something like 'as you wish' or 'you decide'. The next moment he sent the picture! I felt devastated and violated. I didn't want to talk to him or even look at him, but I didn't want to ruin the day, so I just let it pass.

[Pradeep]

Honestly, it's pretty normal for guys to share stuff like that, not a huge issue.

[Aishwarya]

If you both are serious, it's not okay. If it's just a casual thing, some guys think it's normal, but for me it's not acceptable in either case.

[Ishaan]

I'd say this is a common trait of men who aren't serious about a woman. If he's serious, he wouldn't do it because it hurts a woman's dignity. Talk to him calmly if you're serious, otherwise just move on like it was a bad dream.

[Falguni]

Bro, he literally asked whether to send a pic of a condom pack – nothing intimate – and you were fine either way, now you're upset because he did? What's wrong with society?

[Shankar]

Anyone who says 'it's normal for guys' is being foolish. That kind of behaviour just reinforces bad habits in men. It was disgusting and shows he doesn't respect you. A man who truly cares wouldn't disrespect his girlfriend like that.

[Falguni]

A gentleman never kisses and tells – feel free to interpret that however you like.

[Basavaraj]

It's a totally creepy move and can have serious consequences – I've seen it happen with my ex, and that's a long story.

[Nitin]

He asked you if you didn't want him to send the pic – you could have just told him directly instead of overthinking.

[Esha]

Just sit and think about it.

[Vijay]

Girl, just run.