Never had love or sex experience at 28 years old

[Suraj]

I'm a 28 year old guy and I've never had any experience with love or sex

Today I just want to vent a bit. I'm 28 years old and I've never been in a relationship. I've never held someone's hand in a romantic way. I've never been kissed. I've never had sex. I don't even know what it feels like to be truly loved by someone outside of my family. I'm not looking for pity or anything, I just feel like I've missed out on something big. I consider myself decent looking, people have told me that too. But I'm really shy and an introvert. I've spent most of my life doing what everyone expects of me, like focusing on my studies and being a good guy. I've avoided drama and been respectful to women, but now I'm almost 30 and I feel like I've missed out on a big part of life. It hurts to see people younger than me in love and dating, it makes me wonder when my turn will come. Sometimes I feel like I've been cheated out of a whole chapter of my life. I don't want to get married without knowing what love is, I want to experience it for myself. I worry that I'll be too inexperienced, that my partner will have to deal with my awkwardness. I want to fall in love, I want to know what it feels like to be chosen. I want to go on dates and hold someone's hand, I want to feel that spark. Anyway, that's my rant, thanks for reading if you made it this far

[Kavitha]

I feel you bro, I'm in the same shoes as you

[Sonia]

It's the same old story every day. Guys come here saying they've never had a girlfriend, never had sex, can they get an arranged marriage? And the girls come here saying they've had multiple boyfriends, multiple abortions, can they get an arranged marriage? It's like the guys have no experience and the girls have too much. I don't get how the gap got so wide. My advice would be to find a girl who is similar to you, who doesn't have a lot of experience. The other girls might be too much for you to handle

[Namrata]

You post the same thing every few weeks, have you tried to put yourself out there at all? Have you tried to meet new people or go on dates?

[Vikram]

Try out dating apps, go out and meet new people. Kiss someone, have a drink, enjoy life. Don't be so serious all the time

[Naresh]

I think you're overthinking this, you've had a peaceful and stable life so far. You can learn about love and relationships now, and you can find someone who is similar to you. You can start from scratch together and build something special. Don't worry about what others are doing, you've got your whole life ahead of you. You've been saved from the drama and stress that can come with relationships, so be grateful for that

[Ashok]

Dude, you chose your path, and that's okay. You were taught to behave in a certain way, but we live in a different generation now. If you're a decent guy with good intentions, there will be someone out there for you. You just need to get out of your comfort zone and start meeting new people

[Sachin]

I'm 24, I'll probably be in your situation soon

[Pranay]

I'm my husband's first and he's mine. We didn't date before we got married, I had trust issues and he's introverted like me. But we took things slow and it worked out for us. You didn't miss out on anything, high school or college love is not everything. You'll find your soulmate when the time is right

[Vivek]

On this sub, you'll see a lot of people saying they're introverts and they just want someone to fall into their laps. But that's not how it works. You need to have interpersonal and social skills, you need to be able to communicate and be vulnerable. You need to be confident and love yourself first. Being shy and unconfident is not going to help you. You need to create your own life and take charge of your relationships. No one else is going to do it for you.