Husband unaware of wife's infidelity behind his back at 29 years old

[Raghav]

I'm really upset, you know, this guy is a great husband, 29 years old, and his wife is having an affair behind his back

I just can't stand cheating, and something I heard recently is really getting to me. So my boyfriend, who's 23, has a cousin sister who's 28. She recently got married to a doctor who's 29 and doing his post graduation at a government medical college. From what I've heard, he seems like a really good person - introverted, loyal, serious about his studies, maybe a bit possessive, but not toxic or suspicious at all. Honestly, he sounds like the ideal partner. The problem is that she never really liked him. Before this, she was in a 4-year relationship that ended. After that, her mother, who's my boyfriend's mom's sister, really liked this doctor and pushed for the match. Even though the girl didn't feel attracted to him, she still agreed to the engagement and marriage mainly because he's a doctor and financially secure. She had every chance to say no but didn't. While she was already engaged to him, another doctor, let's call him Dr. Mazumder, who's around 35 and had a girlfriend, started contacting her. He flirted with her, saying things like if he had her he'd never look at another woman. She liked the attention. They planned to meet secretly, went on a car date, booked a hotel, and obviously they got physical. And this girl liked this 35-year-old Dr. Mazumder because he's a handsome guy, masculine, 6 feet tall, and also a third-generation doctor in his family, so his family is really rich. But Dr. Mazumder just wanted to make her his side chick for physical intimacy. Then the girl's husband returned for her birthday, they celebrated her birthday well, and of course, the husband has no clue about what his lovely wife did. And literally, my blood boiled listening to all of this. My boyfriend is very much okay with it, he's saying yeah it's really wrong, technically she cheated on her husband. I was like how are you so chill about it. I was just hurt about the guy here, what's his fault. He doesn't deserve this. He doesn't even know what's going on. Why is life so unfair to good people. I literally got super angry and asked my boyfriend to tell everything to his brother-in-law, but of course, he won't go against his sister. I really felt bad. Why do cheaters get the good loyal ones, and loyal ones always suffer with the cheaters. How to reduce the anger that's burning me right now

[Ganesh]

Anger is valid, I agree, it feels helpless

[Amit]

The only way to reduce anger is to ignore these kinds of confessions, because these things are much more common than we think. My blood also boils when reading these kinds of things, and when I put myself in their position, it feels worse. So, the only way I found is to ignore.

[Latha]

I think you should also reconsider your relationship. If he is okay with his sister cheating, then he would be okay with him cheating too. That's just how the world is. Being good in this era means inviting problems.

[Krishna]

Hey, if you share this story with her husband, if they get divorced, you will be blamed for his sister getting divorced. If you still want to share this with her husband, I agree with you, but only if you are ready for future consequences. Just think and go ahead with a plan. Also, you should not feel guilty for their divorce, just possible

[Kavitha]

It's sad, yes

[Jatin]

And that's why they say the world is cruel

[Harish]

Good people always get the bad ones

[Shekar]

I hate cheaters. Once a cheater, always a cheater

[Radhika]

It's a clue that your boyfriend is also going the same path

[Dev]

Your boyfriend has a clear red flag. Don't ignore it. Send that poor man being cheated on an anonymous tip if possible and let him take it from there.