What's wrong with some girls these days

[Parth]

The moment I matched with a girl, she hit me with this question:

'Scotland me job karke bhi aapki salary itni hi hai, to aap waha kyun jaa rahe ho?'

She's a teacher in India earning about 3 lakh a year, and she's judging me for earning £60‑80k a year in Scotland.

She doesn't realise how tough it is to get a visa‑sponsored job, survive the current market with all the layoffs, and live on your own, yet she keeps judging.

I thought I could compromise on looks and education, but this is what I got!

Many parents from the older generation messed up when it came to truly educating their daughters – and I don't mean just sending them to school for a paper degree!

[Ankita]

Maybe she was looking for the best employee or deal rather than a partner.

[Kavitha]

You don't have to answer that. Just ignore it and move on to the next chat.

[Amitabh]

Why would she care how hard it is for you to survive? Everyone's judging everyone in the arranged‑marriage market.

[Deepika]

At least she didn't ask you, 'Can you support someone like me?'

[Rajendra]

Never lower your expectations – you won't get any better. Speaking from personal experience.

[Sangeeta]

Don't compromise!

[Aryan]

Maybe she was just trying to understand your mindset and the pros and cons you considered. Still, she could have phrased it better.

[Pankaj]

Don't compromise. Low‑earning women often lack a sense of reality and can be greedy. Marry someone who may not work but at least appreciates your effort, or someone high‑earning who understands the struggles and values your abilities.

[Ira]

She must be the mod of the r/askindianwomen subreddit.

[Neeraj]

I feel you, OP. Living in the UK with the current job market is an achievement in itself – I work in Nottingham. Keep going!