Is marriage a free visa for migration?

[Prakash]

Why do so many brides on Indian matrimonial sites keep looking only for IT professionals or men settled abroad, even when they're in their mid‑30s?

I've seen on several sites that families filter almost exclusively for IT guys or NRI men (Gulf, Europe, US, etc.), even though the brides themselves are also in their mid‑30s.

Is it just about financial security and social status, or are there other reasons?

For those of us who aren't in IT or aren't abroad, how do we handle this without getting discouraged?

Would love to hear experiences from both men and women.

[Ansh]

Is it mainly about financial security and social status, or are there other reasons behind it?

What else could it be?

[Manisha]

Yeah, because foreign countries are generally more liberal compared to India.

[Amit]

They're like princesses living in a dream, waiting for someone else to take them abroad.

If they could do it themselves, they wouldn't be scrolling through matrimonial sites looking for a groom. The ones who truly want to go overseas have already worked hard and are living abroad.

[Vijay]

I have many friends working abroad who struggle to find matches. Financially independent women don't go for those guys, and even some women who aren't yet independent but understand what life abroad is like also avoid such matches.

I didn't follow your mid‑30s point - how does that relate to migration?

[Sangeeta]

I have to say, IT folks often seem useless. They sit at a desk from 10 am to 9 pm, with no life outside. When they finally step out, they act like they've forgotten the world.

Their bodies become stiff, every muscle begging for a stretch.

[Ananya]

I don't know why many think that. I've seen several cases where the couple married, the wife stayed in India with her in‑laws while the husband worked abroad. Conversely, there are many stories from abroad where the wife faced abuse and had no one to turn to. It's not always like that, but I do hear these situations often!

[Nandini]

Some men complain that women chase NRI men just to enjoy a better lifestyle and get a financially strong husband. But think about it - when these men are abroad, earning well, can they still afford a maid for daily chores? Do they have a cook to prepare two or three meals a day? Who washes the dishes, does the laundry and irons the clothes, or handles meal prep? If they want children, are they hiring a surrogate? Often the wife ends up doing all that work, essentially becoming a free maid.

These men flaunt their NRI status and demand huge dowries, yet they live in a single room shared with two other guys and call themselves financially strong. It's a joke if you can't even afford a separate apartment. Who asked you to marry such freeloading women? Why are you choosing them? You know a financially independent, well‑established lady will NOT become your free maid, so you prefer a dowry‑rich girl and then make her do the housework abroad.

[Danny]

Let them decide if they get it or not - that's their destiny.

[Dinesh]

Nothing wrong with it, in my opinion - it's just a preference.

If you bring enough value to the relationship you'll get what you want; if not, unreasonable expectations will only shrink your pool.

[Anita]

More freedom, fewer family visits and less involvement.