BF of 4.5 yrs cheated – what now?

[Anil]

(23F,24M)

We have been together since the first year of MBBS. He was a good guy and a friend of my then roommate. When we started talking he made me feel super comfortable. I have severe anxiety attacks, but they vanished once he became part of my daily life – we studied together and scored good marks every semester.

During internship there were days we didn't spend much time together, though we saw each other in the hospital. He started refusing hugs, which was odd.

On my birthday night he didn't wish me. The same guy who used to bake a cake for me in the boys' hostel didn't even call. The next day I called him; he said he slept early after a long day and would take me out for dinner later. I forgave him, waited 45 minutes at the college gate, and he finally arrived.

I asked what was going on, and he just said he slept a bit longer and apologized.

I forgave him again and went to dinner, but he was glued to his phone, talking aggressively with someone and kept saying "kuch nhi hua" when I asked if everything was okay.

Feeling upset, I wrapped up the night and he dropped me at the girls' hostel.

Later, the girls from the neighbouring room showed me some photos of him in a compromising position with my junior. I first thought they were AI‑generated, but my junior had actually posted them on her Instagram close‑friends list (my neighbour was on that list).

All this happened two days ago.

I can't sleep, eat or focus on my internship.

I got 75+ missed calls from him, but I blocked him.

I have no idea what to do now??

[Daksha]

Move on. I know it'll be tough, but channel your energy into studying. Don't unblock him or give him a chance to talk. He doesn't deserve any of your attention.

[Pankaj]

I have received 75+ missed calls of his but I blocked him. So satisfying. You're doing great, girlie. Look ahead and only let people who deserve you be around. Forget him for ruining your birthday, okay?

[Manish]

What's the point of those 75 missed calls when he's already treating you badly?

[Vidya]

You're doing great, keep focusing on your life and leave him behind in the dust. You have good self‑respect.

[Sneha]

Block him. Focus on yourself. Pick up new hobbies or something, but don't go back to him. Don't talk to him.

[Nakul]

Block. Delete. Leave. You'll thank yourself later. Rip it off like a band‑aid. Your dignity and self‑respect matter more than anything. You're working hard for a bigger dream, so focus on that and yourself. You'll be soaring high soon ✨

[Preeti]

Understand that you're no longer his priority. Do well in life without him.

[Pranay]

Run, baby, run. Once a cheater, always a cheater – you're safe now.

[Akshara]

Be thankful you found out early. From now till the end of college, be happy, choose yourself and enjoy the days you won't revisit. Don't give him any chance, not even for a talk.

[Ranjit]

You're a doctor, well‑qualified and intelligent. Let go of the jerk. Blocking him was the right move. You had good times in those 4.5 years, think of them that way and move on. You don't owe him any explanation.