Anyone dealing with this problem?

[Madhu]

I'm a 25‑year‑old male, recently married. On our first night we had sex and I ejaculated in less than a minute because of the sensations. Before marriage I used to masturbate once every 2 days or sometimes once a week. I'm not sure if this is happening because of over‑masturbation, sensitivity, or something else.

At first I thought it was due to pressure, excitement or anxiety. My wife and I talked about it openly, and next time we tried to go slow with proper foreplay and stay relaxed. But the same thing happened.

I want to know if anyone else faced this after marriage and managed to overcome it naturally without seeing a doctor. Or should I get it checked? Looking for genuine suggestions and experiences.

[Govind]

It's natural and quite common—about one‑third of guys experience this the first time. Try having sex more often; over time it usually improves. If it doesn't, see a doctor. Talk openly with your wife and ask her to be patient. Remember, this has nothing to do with your masculinity.

[Falguni]

Everything will get back to normal once you're familiar with the whole process and your partner's body. It happens to many of us. Don't worry.

[Saritha]

Maybe you were a virgin before marriage? Here are a few tips you can try:
- Masturbate about 30‑40 minutes before sex.
- Use condoms; they can help you last longer.
- Practice makes perfect.

[Preeti]

To some extent this is normal. Stop watching porn altogether. Do you work out? Give it some time and it should improve.

[Ritvik]

First time? Yes, it's very common. Have sex daily and it should improve sooner than you think.

[Subhash]

This is common. Your penis is just reacting to the new sensations, and it will settle down as you have sex more often. For now you can try to think about something else as a distraction. I wouldn't suggest delay sprays or condoms because they can numb the penis. If you do ejaculate, that's fine—you can continue by performing oral or fingering until you get hard again.

One practical tip is to pull out when you feel you're about to cum, focus on oral for a few minutes, then get back to intercourse.

[Vivek]

Masturbate a few hours before the act. Also make foreplay long enough so your wife is already satisfied, then take it slow or pause whenever you feel you're about to ejaculate.

[Vivek]

It's probably the protection you're using.

[Aman]

Use condoms. They reduce sensation, so it may not feel as intense, but they help you last longer.

[Uday]

This is normal. Eat healthy, get enough sleep and exercise. Having sex frequently can help. I had the same issue and it became normal for me.