Girlfriend doubts me, marital rape & feminism concerns

[Preeti]

I've always considered myself a feminist. I have an older sister I love and respect, and my parents have never shown bias between us. I think that's shaped me into the person I am today. My girlfriend and I have been discussing feminism a lot lately, and she's been sending me reels about stigmas and all that. We usually have positive talks about it, but sometimes she says stuff like 'All men are this and that.' I haven't said anything about it because I understand where her anger comes from. But then we had a discussion about contraceptive methods, and I said I'd rather stick with condoms than take a male contraceptive pill with side effects. She got pretty upset, saying I wasn't considering the societal expectations of women taking birth control pills with side effects. I told her I wasn't responsible for what society expects, and it got heated. She said the onus of birth control falls on women and that a female contraceptive pill is a sign of misogyny. I said blocking one egg is easier than blocking a million sperms, and men do wear condoms. She got hyper and said I should get a reversible vasectomy. I felt she was acting absurd. I understand her anger, but I felt like she was lashing out at me when I've never expected her to follow 'gender roles.' I cook more and do more household chores than her, and I've never said anything. We calmed down and moved on, but recently, there's been this TV show 'Chiraiya' that focuses on marital rape. I shared a YouTube video with her, and she asked me what my opinion on marital rape was. I was stunned and said it's obviously a crime. She apologized profusely, saying she didn't mean to doubt me. But then she said she had to be sure because I've often expressed a neutral stance on feminism. I felt dejected that after two years, she still didn't trust me. Maybe she was just trying to understand my thinking, but it stung.

[Madhu]

Just a phase, I guess. You get angry when you learn about systemic inequalities, but then you calm down.

[Shailesh]

If it's a new thing for her, it might be a phase. Struggle through it if you're serious about her, but too much 'wokeness' can corrupt one's mind. If she's a good person, she'll apologize later.

[Satish]

She's not thinking you're anti-feminist; she's just trying to understand your thinking. Stand by your principles, and it'll settle down.

[Ajay]

Let's be real, bro. This isn't going to stop. You've been patient, but it's time to set boundaries. If she can't respect you, it's time to reevaluate. Don't let her disrespect you; you have to stand up for yourself. This 'men-hating' stuff won't stop unless you confront her.

[Akash]

You guys share reels, talk openly, and you do more household chores. You've been in a relationship for two years, and she still doesn't trust you? Talk to her openly and say how you feel. You can't walk on eggshells in a relationship.

[Balaji]

I don't think it's a phase. The algorithm is built to pull you in. Your girlfriend needs to read more nuanced literature on international feminism and have actual debates. Talk to her honestly about how you feel.

[Juhi]

She's being disrespectful. If she can't trust you after two years, maybe she shouldn't date you.

[Sunita]

I agree she's angry, but lashing out at you isn't right. It's up to you if you want to put up with it, but if I were you, I wouldn't.

[Swati]

So, feminism means all men are bad, and you're the bad guy for not denying it? You're not responsible for things happening elsewhere. A good man isn't defined by claiming to be a feminist or saying all men are bad.

[Samar]

I'm surprised no one's talking about the Hot vs Crazy scale