This guy I rejected actually called my parents when they're not even well

[Murali]

I'm really upset and need to talk about this. So my parents were thinking of this one guy for marriage and he messaged me on Instagram. I replied and we chatted for a bit to see if we were a good match. What's important to know is that we only really talked for about 2 days. After that, we barely spoke for another week, and then I told him I couldn't take it forward because of work and all. I even told him he should look for other matches. We only spoke on the phone for less than 2 hours total. After that, he kept sending me messages asking for calls, saying he'd wait for months and all that. I stopped responding because I'd already made it clear I wasn't interested. I should've blocked him, but I had a lot going on, so I just ignored him. Now, here's the part that really shocked me. Today, he called my dad and started talking about our private conversations. My dad had the phone on speaker, so my mom heard everything too. They've been really unwell for the past week, and this guy still went ahead and talked about our conversations. To make things worse, he completely exaggerated everything. He told my dad we'd been in touch for 3 months, when it was only 2 days. He said we'd spoken for over 3 hours on the phone, when it was less than 2 hours. He made it sound like I'd led him on and then stopped responding. That's not true at all. We'd initially agreed that if things worked out, we'd involve our parents later. But when I didn't respond, he went straight to my parents and told them a distorted version of what happened. Now my parents are upset and questioning me, even though I was the one who politely said no and tried to end things respectfully. I'm going to try to talk to my parents and calm them down. But what this guy did is really sadistic. I honestly don't get what he gains from this. I'd already said I wasn't interested. If someone rejects you, why try to create drama with their parents? It just seems petty and vindictive. I've blocked him everywhere now. Has anyone else dealt with people like this in arranged marriage situations? Is this some kind of ego thing after rejection? Because I really don't understand the mindset here.

[Bhavana]

Sorry you had to go through this. Good idea to try to calm your parents down. You can either block him and move on with your life, or call his parents and tell them what really happened. Show them how little you actually talked and how desperate he was. He went to your parents, so you could go to his and call him out. But it's up to you. I think it's better to just block him and move on.

[Anil]

I think the guy was wrong to talk to your parents about your private conversations. But I also think you shouldn't be looking for a match when you know you've got a lot going on in your life. You're not really ready for this. The arranged marriage scene can be tough for guys, just look at how many are looking for partners and the numbers are not in their favor. I'm not justifying what the guy did, but try to see it from his side. When you say you're not ready, it doesn't give him a clear answer and he's trying his best.

[Mahesh]

Call his parents and tell them what he's really like, that's not a good idea, but you could tell them how he's been bothering you.