Fitness isn’t fair – need advice

[Harini]

I busted my back to drop from 130kg to 82kg in 2023. Then a cardiologist warned me that my blood had become unusually thick and if I kept training I could have a stroke. I quit the gym and switched to one meal a day, but I still put on weight and hit 98kg by 2025. I went back to the gym, suffered severe chest pain, got checked – the blood was still thick. I consulted more doctors who gave me blood‑thinning meds, but the side‑effect was weight gain, pushing me to 110kg in 2026. I'm 31 now and during arranged‑marriage meetings women call me obese and laugh. I feel cursed. Has anyone faced something similar? I just turned 30, my dad shames me about my body more than any girl I've spoken to, and my parents are pushing for marriage while I don't want to compromise on my looks.

[Balaji]

Hey brother, sorry to hear that. This isn't just a fitness issue, it's a medical one. Please see several doctors and get different opinions. All the best.

[Pranav]

Do you have any genetic blood disorder that makes your blood more viscous? Dehydration during intense workouts can temporarily thicken blood, but only if it's severe and prolonged. You should see a haematologist for a proper check‑up.

[Kamal]

Eating one meal a day doesn't guarantee weight loss or gain. It's simply calories in versus calories out. There are many reasons your blood might feel 'thick'; I'd need more context to understand what you mean.

[Damini]

I've faced this twice and now I'm on my third weight‑loss journey at 23, so I understand. Once you lose weight, it's easier to gain it back because fat cells shrink but don't vanish, and medication can make it tougher. It's usually quicker to regain weight than to gain it for the first time. If you can afford it, some people opt for liposuction after they hit their target weight.

[Hari]

First thing is to get the right consultation. You can also look up your symptoms on healthline.com if that helps.

[Vaishali]

Walk like Gandhi did during the Dandi march, stay in zone 2, eat better, and give it a year.

[Madhuri]

You mentioned dehydration – why not address that? Nothing is a curse; it's just a life situation. Please don't rush into marriage while you're in this mindset. Focus on staying hydrated and losing weight gradually. I dropped from 98kg to 85kg by eating two meals a day, walking, yoga, and a high‑protein, low‑carb diet, drinking at least 2‑3 litres of water. It took me two years. I aim to go from 85kg to 70kg in the next two years – not easy, but it's my life and I follow my own rules. I'm 50, a widow with no family, well‑educated, and I have a boyfriend who appreciates my physique. I'm also deeply spiritual. Not everyone has to follow the same norms.

[Shanta]

You're caught in an unlucky situation. It shows how our system often cares more about getting you married than fixing your health. If the condition is serious, you should really think about whether to marry and start a family now. It may sound harsh, but the girl deserves to know before marriage.

[Govind]

Bro, it's basically a 'find a really good doctor' kind of situation.

[Ramesh]

What does the doctor mean when they say your blood is thick? Please see a DM cardiologist; if you're in Mumbai I can give you references. I pay 5 000 rupees for a single appointment to avoid bigger expenses later, as some doctors try to keep patients chronic.