Why men think we owe them after asking nicely?

[Pratik]

Yesterday I was heading home on the metro. My station is near the end of the line, so by the time the train reaches it most of the crowd has left the rear coaches. At my stop only I and a guy in casuals were left, he was sitting a couple of rows ahead of me.
He came over, started small talk – asked how I was, mentioned my logo, said I work at Meta and that he's a software engineer too. I thought he wanted a referral, so I chatted a bit. Then out of nowhere he said, \"Aap bahut sundar ho, aap girlfriend banogi meri?\" (You're pretty, will you be my girlfriend?). I told him politely that I'm not looking for a relationship. He then launched into a rant, \"ye saari ladkiyan aisi kyun hoti hain? ...\" (Why are all girls like that? Is it because I'm ugly? All girls are the same...). He stormed off when the gates opened. I was shocked and scared, wondering what I did wrong. After calming down I got angry – what did I owe him? He had no right to put me in that situation. It was really upsetting and I even feared he might hit me.

[Shailesh]

Some people are entitled as hell. I get name‑calling in DMs just because I don't share personal details like age, gender or where I'm from. Dude, calm down – the world doesn't revolve around you and my boundaries are not up for debate.

[Uday]

From childhood we're taught that men are the centre of the universe and women should bow down to them.

[Tanuja]

If a guy starts a sentence with "saari ladkiyo ko ye kyu chahiye...", you've spotted a gan du. Hide your company ID while travelling, carry pepper spray – nice girls end up with trauma in this world.

[Jyoti.kumar]

Some men think that being nice or 'respectful' means they've earned a right, so a rejection feels unfair. Their sense of entitlement was once accepted, but the rules have changed. They haven't updated their mindset; they just wear politeness as a mask. The moment you say no, the mask drops and their true character shows.

[Jyoti.kumar]

Whenever I try to believe good guys exist, posts like this pop up and kill the hope. I'd reply, \"Mai bhi tere jaisa hi tha bhai, 3 mahine pehle, abhi abhi ladki bana hoon.\"

[Basavaraj]

It shows their mindset clearly – they only act nice to women they're attracted to. They assume everyone follows the same script, so when we treat them like normal humans without any hidden agenda, they can't handle it.

[Samar]

Many of them grow up with extreme entitlement and barely interact with women outside their family. When a woman talks to them politely or shows basic decency, they convince themselves she must be interested. They've never learned normal human interaction. On top of that, they're fed the myth that being nice will magically earn them a beautiful wife, like a reward. This conditioning makes them arrogant and convinced they're doing a favour by being 'nice', while looking down on women. When they finally get into a relationship they often treat their partner badly because they never learned to handle rejection or reflect on their behaviour. They truly believe women owe them attention and affection – a toxic mindset.

[Shekar]

I always tell people I'm in a relationship. As soon as men hear that, they stop pestering me.

[Sohan]

Some Indian men grow up with an entitled upbringing, their parents give them everything, and nobody teaches them how to deal with rejection, especially from women. It's just sad.

[Ananya]

Completely off‑topic, can you refer me at Meta?

P.S. You miss every shot you don't take.