M27: career doing well, but relationship struggles

[Naveen]

Hello everyone, I'm a 27‑year‑old male, post‑graduated from one of the top 5 B‑schools in India. I'm doing quite well in my career, earning above 22 LPA take‑home. I was in a long‑term relationship for over 6 years, but we drifted apart when I started my PG studies and eventually broke up. She was a bit insecure, I guess. Since then I find it really hard to trust any woman. My parents keep pushing for an arranged marriage, but I have no interest. I've tried therapy and everything. I'm over her now, yet I'm hyper‑vigilant and can't trust anyone. Do you think a girl from an arranged‑marriage setup could understand this and make me comfortable enough to take a chance and trust again?

[Himani]

If you make her feel really comfortable, she might say yes.

[Damini]

Take your time, there's no rush. I think you haven't fully processed the breakup yet. Consider therapy.

[Mister]

Sounds similar to your case. Arranged marriage might not be right for you right now. Take a break and don't hurry.

[Yatin]

I'm in a similar boat. I'm a F27, spent 3 years in a relationship that grew naturally, so caste never came up. He wasn't from my caste, but both families were ready for marriage. My parents objected, and after a few months he broke up, saying he couldn't wait any longer. I got over it but now I have trust issues with men. My advice: take your time. You're only 27, don't rush into a mistake. Trust is essential.

[Arvind]

Everyone has their own story. You'll know when the right person comes along; otherwise, it's fine to enjoy being single.

[Advik]

Read this a couple of times. Heal first and be ready before you bring anyone new into your life.