Am I 19‑yr‑old girl overreacting to my BF's comment?

[Aarti]

So, I have a college friend who told me she wants to sleep with as many people as possible. I know I shouldn't have told my boyfriend, but I did. He replied, "mere sath karne bhi ready hojaegi kya" with a laughing emoji. I asked, "what?" and felt really disgusted. He said he was just joking, but I told him I don't like it and stopped checking his messages. He then texted, "are pagal, where are you?" (that's his way of trying to convince me). I replied, "I don't want to talk to you," and he said, "you are mental." I answered, "yes I'm mental, ok," and he left me on read. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting—please tell me honestly. He's made similar jokes before, usually about me, and I've told him I don't like jokes that involve other people. Now he made a joke about himself with someone else, and if I react more he'll say I can't handle jokes. He's blamed me for that before. Am I wrong for feeling bad?

[Devendra]

No, you're not over‑reacting. Not everything is meant to be a joke! Make him understand that!

[Cricfan]

Not everything should be taken as a joke. There are boundaries. Personally, I wouldn't even say something like that as a joke. My relationship with my girlfriend is more like best‑friends, very respectful, and we know our limits. Honestly, such a joke shouldn't have crossed his mind at all.

[Bhavesh]

Why did you share your friend's conversation with your boyfriend? That's the first mistake. The second is staying with a guy like that. He's crossed the line before and you've tolerated it, so now he doesn't care how you feel because he knows he can push boundaries and you'll keep forgiving him. That shows a lack of self‑respect.

[Amitabh]

Definitely not overreacting.

[Mohaideen]

Honestly, if someone respects you emotionally and mentally, they would never use words like "pagal" or "mental" to justify their behavior. That's a red flag. Those words stick in your subconscious and hurt your self‑esteem. It will bug you in the long run. Find someone considerate, empathetic, and understanding.

[Aftab]

You're actually under‑reacting. He's emotionally immature. That wasn't a good joke. It feels like he might have some kinks he's scared to admit—maybe a cuckold or BDSM thing, or he wants an open relationship. Using jokes is a tactic. You should confront him now and tell him you didn't like it. If he brushes it off, take a stronger stance.

[Chirag]

No, he's just trying to bring you down with senseless trash.

[Anupama]

Not over‑reacting. Take this as an early warning sign.

[Chandan]

Bro, either he has a cuckold fetish or wants an open relationship—making jokes about you being with someone else is gross, then he does the same about himself. Why does every post in India seem to involve cuckold fetishes or this nonsense?

[Abhishek]

The red flags you ignore now will decide how the relationship ends.