18F got intimate with 20M senior, now he's distant – was it just a hookup?

[Pankaj]

I'm 18F, doing my 2nd semester B.Tech in Delhi NCR and staying in a PG. First semester I chilled with friends, but things got tricky this semester.

There's a senior (20M, 2nd year CS) I met at a tech‑club event. He seemed decent, so I followed him on Insta and we started chatting about assignments, coding and notes.

For the past month we talked a lot – late‑night Discord streams, personal stuff, and he'd flirt a lot. He's the typical gym‑bro but smart coder vibe, and I found him pretty attractive.

Last week my mid‑sem exams were on, I was stressed, and he offered to help. His flatmates were away for the weekend, so he invited me over saying "yaha shanti se padh lenge, koi disturb nahi karega". I went without overthinking.

We sat on the bed with our laptops. He was pointing at my screen, his cologne was strong and his breath brushed my neck. The tension was crazy.

We locked eyes for about 10 seconds, then he moved his hand from the mousepad to my thigh. I got goosebumps. He pulled me close and we started kissing – it was aggressive and super passionate, not a cute first kiss.

Things heated up fast. His hands were on me, his grip on my waist was tight, and we made out for a while. It was my first time feeling such intensity, and I stopped before going all the way because I got scared. He cuddled me afterwards, played with my hair and whispered, "You drive me crazy."

Since that day his vibe has changed. He texts less, and when we meet on campus he just gives a casual smile. When he does message, it's usually late‑night "wyd" type texts. A batch‑mate hinted that he has a reputation for casual/FWB stuff with juniors.

Now I'm overthinking everything. The chemistry was amazing and he was gentle in that moment, but I feel like I might have been an easy target because he knew I liked him.

B.Tech stress plus this situationship drama is killing my mental peace. Do you think he just wanted a quick hookup and is now pulling away? Should I confront him face‑to‑face or give him the cold shoulder and move on? Please tell me I'm not crazy for having feelings!

[Benny]

He just wanted to use you for his physical needs and then lost interest. Stay away from him; he'll probably come back for the same reason later. Don't repeat the mistake.

[Karan]

Was he your first kiss?

[Farhan]

Gurl, the 18‑25 age range is basically a character‑development phase where a lot of these things happen. You can either mess up and regret it or build a solid foundation. It's up to you how you navigate this. My advice: don't do anything you'll regret, have fun with friends and make your younger self proud! Stay away from scumbags who'll take advantage of you.

[Aftab]

You're not crazy for having feelings, but you're being "slow‑faded." He used the study session as a classic test of your boundaries. The shift from deep talks to late‑night "wyd" texts is a universal sign that he's moving you from a priority to a casual option. His reputation as a "gym‑bro coder" who targets juniors is a massive red flag – he knows exactly how to use the senior‑junior power dynamic. Don't confront him; guys like this thrive on drama because it confirms you're still hooked. Instead, give him the cold shoulder and focus on your B.Tech. A guy who treats you like a queen behind closed doors but acts like a stranger on campus isn't "confused" – he's just keeping his options open while keeping you on the hook.

[Sonia]

The Hinglish switching feels forced and formulaic.

[Dev]

It's possible he knew exactly what he was doing and now, after the act, wants to stay away, maybe coming back later for more. It's also possible he's genuinely confused about his feelings and realized it wasn't love, just a wave of lust. Either way, you're in your first year of B.Tech. If coding is a struggle, focus on improving – three months of consistent practice can make a big difference, and aim for internships from the second year. Regarding the guy, this is likely his first situation, so giving him the cold shoulder is the best move. Good luck with your studies!

[Shyam]

This AI‑generated comment is boring.

[Madhav]

Sounds fake.

[Nandini]

He's ignoring you because you stopped him from what he really wanted. He just wants to have sex, nothing more. Don't confront him face‑to‑face – guys like that are very manipulative. Stay away, otherwise you'll regret it later.

[Damini]

He only wanted sex and nothing else. Stay away from these people, especially at the start of your career.