27F: Met guy 3 times, wonder if such guys exist?

[Riya]

In an arranged‑marriage setup, I've met this guy three times. He told me I'm only the second girl he's met and it seems he's never dated before, judging by his behavior.
The problem is his communication is really weak – far below average.
He says, and his dad confirms, that:
1) He's not a texter at all. The few times I text, the messages stay on a single tick for hours.
2) He's introverted, so I end up doing most of the talking when we meet. He keeps his guard up and hasn't opened up yet. When he does answer, it's clear and shows interest, but I have to keep the conversation going. The third time we met he said he keeps his guard high and needs time to open up. He knows I'm putting in more effort and says it will change once he opens up. (But I don't see him making any effort to open up. I'm not sure how introverts work.)
3) If he doesn't text, he doesn't call me every day either, so I feel a disconnect at other times.

Apart from the weak communication, he ticks almost all the boxes I'm looking for, so I don't want to give up yet.

To all the introverts out there or anyone who's been in a similar spot – how do I get past this? What can make communication easier and help him open up?

[Sohan]

If he's already acknowledged the concerns, you can give it a shot since everything else seems good. It's basically an introvert‑extrovert mix. Give him some time to lower his guard and feel comfortable around you. Guys like that do exist.

[Balaji]

I was in a similar situation. It took him about four months to open up and build a bond. That's normal, especially if he hasn't felt the same level of interest yet. Some people just need more time and that's okay. But if you feel drained constantly trying to keep the relationship alive, maybe look for someone you naturally click with.

[Jignesh]

Aadat daal lo. AM mein sab aise hi hote hain.

[Saad]

There's nothing wrong with moving on in an arranged marriage if the pace doesn't match yours. Before doing that, have a clear, direct conversation – ask him what you can do to make him comfortable. If he says it's just a matter of time, decide whether you're willing to wait longer or if it's draining you.

For future reference, most marriages work like this: you pull the majority of effort some days, your partner does on others. It's rarely a perfect 50‑50 split, but that balance comes after you're both comfortable with what you're building together.

[Tarun]

As an introvert, I'd do everything my way to get to know the person I'm going to marry. Something feels odd to me, IMO.

[Saloni]

It depends, honestly. You can't expect a new guy to be as comfortable as a five‑year‑old boyfriend. It will take time – meet him more, see if he's opening up. If it's a behavioural issue, then you decide how you want your marriage to look.

[Shivam]

You need to ease up and try to communicate. Communication is the key.

[Chirag]

Try sharing team‑building hobbies or activities together.

[Ishita]

What is attracting you towards him?

[Ramesh]

One thing to understand about introverts: we take time to open up. We talk less but observe a lot, so even tiny details don't go unnoticed. Our efforts may look one‑sided because we show things differently instead of saying them outright.

Introverts also need personal space – moments to sit alone, think, recharge, or just enjoy their own company. If you plan to marry him, being comfortable with that space is important.

But once an introvert truly opens up or falls for someone, you'll get immense love, respect, loyalty, care, and genuine effort.