How do men even justify this?

[Umesh]

Separating a woman from her parents is treated as completely fine – they say it's tradition and there's nothing wrong with it. But the moment a woman says she doesn't want to live with her in‑laws, people call her the worst thing ever. Whenever this is brought up, you hear all sorts of nonsense and name‑calling for wanting her own space. I've never met a man who openly admits it's a privilege they don't want to lose. They keep insisting on staying in their own house with an extra maid – the wife – and refuse to accept that it's a benefit.

[Ranjit]

I really doubt those men are capable of any introspection or taking accountability.

[Anjali]

It's just culture, you know? Why are we even questioning culture? Some say feminism is ruining society. Baap re, women are supposed to be nurturers, having to take care of two families one after the other.

[Pooja]

It's just double standards!

[Sandeep]

How do we respond to men who claim it's 'culture'? They say every culture is against women or oppresses them. Where do these ideas even come from?

[Varunesh]

I can't believe fathers are still okay with this.

[Vandana]

It's so ingrained that even some women end up justifying it. LOL

[Shanta]

It's simple – we've been enjoying a benefit that society gave us for years, and when someone tries to change it, anger flares up. It's like when a man complains, 'why do we get special seats on trains and buses? Let women stand when it's crowded.'

For the record, Sweden doesn't have separate gender‑specific toilets and is working to remove gender‑based treatment wherever possible. Until we reach that point, this issue won't disappear.

[Kalpana]

Yes, it's hypocritical and sad. This whole mindset started when men were the sole providers and families treated daughters like a liability. Now that women work and share decision‑making in finances and home management, it's high time we end this. We need to speak up and make it clear that our parents will also live with us. When I get married, I'm taking my dad with me. My mom has passed away, and I'm not leaving him alone.

[Kalpana]

More women need to start questioning it instead of just accepting it as the default or saying 'yeh toh karna hi padta hai'. Living with in‑laws shouldn't be a duty just because it's called tradition. It amazes me how many women who earn their own money still agree to stay with in‑laws even when they don't get along.

[Saad]

And when a man supports us in saying this, he gets called a 'simp' or people say he's after our parents' money.