GF ignores health issues from intimacy; interfaith family pressure - need advice

[Ramesh]

Gonna be a little long post, you may want to read the TLDR at the end first. Please read for guidance. Thanks.

I (24M) am in a relationship with a 26F. We both work in the same company and live away from our hometowns. She gets a bit anxious and overwhelmed with the new surroundings. We started dating a year ago; it was fine at first. I used to comfort her a lot because of her anxiety, and we were physically intimate once a week, mostly weekends when I visited her, always with her consent.

I kept looking after her because I love her and would do anything. After three months she moved in with me. Things changed – I cook, I help with her office work, I've even built a good rapport with her mother who approves of me. But she got so comfortable that her condition worsened, especially the intimacy part. I'm not against intimacy, but she has limits she's ignoring, and it's taking a toll on my mental health.

We saw a local doctor who suggested keeping some distance for her physical health and doing meditation for mental health, but that backfired – she feels more vulnerable when I'm not around.

I don't know what to do because I can't say no when she asks for intimacy; her condition seems to get worse if I try to distance myself. We rarely go back to our hometowns because she wants to spend more time with me. This is hurting both our health, but she keeps ignoring it.

We're from different religions – she's Hindu, I'm Jain – that's not a problem for us, but her father doesn't approve of us marrying. My family is fine with it. I want to marry her someday, but her father's disapproval and her health issues are making things tough. How can I confront her and her family about this?

TLDR: My girlfriend is too intimate, ignoring her health, and our marriage prospects are low. Need advice on confronting her and her family while still wanting to marry her and improve her condition.

[Kavitha]

For your own peace of mind, consider breaking up and going no‑contact. She's taking a toll on your health, and if you stay, you may end up feeling worse and losing yourself over time.

[Nandini]

Has she seen a therapist about this?

[Bhavesh]

I'm confused. How many times a week do you two get physically intimate?

[Ayaan]

Your post is a bit vague, I'm not sure what the exact problem is. Is it the physical intimacy, her being overly needy, or a chronic illness? Are we talking about a physical or mental condition? Please clarify what health issue you're referring to.

[Anusha]

Seeing a therapist and having an honest conversation with her could help. Sit down, stay calm, and tell her how you feel. Explain that the current level of intimacy is harming her health and that it's affecting both of you.

[Akshara]

Maybe both of you should get an astrological consultation - it might give some useful perspective.