Update: Broke off engagement (28F & 32M AM)

[Divya]

Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/s/t7kvyzdA8H

Context: After the engagement I realised my fiancé is overly dependent on his parents. He said he's fine sacrificing anything for them and sees nothing wrong with that. He doesn't know how to handle a conflict.

Hey everyone!

Thanks a lot for confirming my doubts.

Just letting you all know that we have called off the engagement.

I didn't expect to feel such relief after all that happened.

My uncles and my dad will meet his side in a week at a public place to exchange rings and return the saree his family gave me.

His parents still want to stay friends, which feels really creepy and weird to me, and my parents have said no.

I have no regrets at all and finally feel at peace ✨

[Lavanya]

Sending hugs! You did the right thing. Congrats on saving yourself from any negativity that could have disturbed your peace.

[Jignesh]

Good for you. Better to end it now than be stuck a year later.

[Riya]

Congrats on dodging a bullet. I was also caught up in a messy AM drama, so I know the relief. My family backed me up and saved my skin. Always trust your instincts – it's your life.

[Kanchan]

Personally, I'd think twice before marrying someone who called off an engagement. This could affect your chances of finding another partner. Either you agreed because of his money without really knowing him, or you broke it off for other reasons. Either way, it raises a red flag.

[Rohit]

If you felt this person wasn't right, you did the right thing. Just be honest with any future partners about the broken engagement. Some people might judge and step back, but that's better for both sides. Don't marry the next guy by hiding this or waiting until after the marriage or engagement to tell him. I've seen many cases where the girl only brings it up after the marriage is set, saying she wasn't comfortable, etc.

[Dhruv]

Happy for you! Good riddance.

[Chiranjit]

Wow, congrats. I'm in a similar spot and hope I can find the strength to call off my own engagement too.

[Yamini]

Congrats, OP. Hope you'll be more careful next time. Best of luck!

[Danny]

Reading your last post, I just want to say you saved yourself. That guy was total nonsense. I also come from a conservative family, but we don't run things like that. People happily give gifts to their daughters‑in‑law. What sacrifice is he talking about for his parents? Their family seems clueless. I've never seen such a setup. Here we give our kids space to build their own life, even if they stay with in‑laws. We don't choke them with expectations all the time; they get their 'me' time. Everything about that situation felt off. Glad you're finally free.