I (26M) have been in a long distance thing with my girlfriend (25F) for almost a year now. She's from Kolkata and was planning to come visit me in Mumbai. But recently, she's been having second thoughts about the trip. Her main issue is that she's never traveled alone to another city before and is feeling really anxious about it. To be honest, she's never even traveled solo within her own city, let alone taking a flight or train to another one. I've been trying to reassure her as much as I can - I told her I'd be on a video call with her from the time she gets into the cab to the airport till her flight takes off, and I'll be waiting for her at the Mumbai airport before her flight lands. Realistically, the only time she'd be alone is during the cab ride to the airport and the flight itself. I even suggested that I could quickly talk to a flight attendant to help ease her anxiety during the flight. Despite all this, she's still really hesitant and is now saying that I should come to Kolkata instead. I don't mind visiting her, but it would be way more expensive for me since I'd have to stay in a hotel. I've already been to Kolkata twice last year, and both times she promised to visit me in Mumbai. It feels like she's changed her mind out of the blue. I'm not sure how to handle this situation - should I just go to Kolkata again or is there a better way to reassure her and help her feel comfortable flying solo?
Not a big deal, you can just visit her if she's never traveled alone before. You wouldn't want to be responsible if something goes wrong, and her parents won't even know where she is. So it's better if you travel to her.
Honestly, I'd tell her to just go for it - it's not going to be easy, but she needs to step out of her comfort zone at some point. And it's better if she does it now when you're there to support her.
Dude, she's 25 - she should definitely learn how to travel alone by now
Why not fly to Kolkata, pick her up from the airport, and then fly back to Mumbai together? It's just half a day extra, and on the way back, she can either travel alone since she's familiar with the process or you can fly with her again. The extra flights would cost you about the same as staying in a hotel.
That video call offer you made is actually pretty solid, btw
You could meet her halfway if she's more comfortable with that
It's a big deal if she's never traveled alone before - that's kinda isolating, you know? Never leaving your city on your own?
That does sound like a tough spot for her, but your plan so far is pretty decent
Unless she has some kind of anxiety disorder, she should be fine traveling alone at 25. She just needs to take the leap.
Bro, are you a Bengali or what? Anyway, I don't know much about this stuff, so I won't give any advice.