I'm M23 and I just caught my girlfriend F22 cheating on me, she says it was just for attention and nothing serious
So here's what's been going on - my girlfriend was the one who asked me out in college and we've been together for 2 years now. We've been in a long distance relationship for the past year since I moved to another city for work. We both have jobs in different fields and cities. I used to visit her every other week, spending around 5-6 hours on each trip, and I'd cover all our expenses since I earn more than her. Anyway, I visited her last week and she seemed really distant, so I asked if I could check her phone, which I've never done before in our 2 years together. I found out she's been chatting with multiple guys, and she says it's because she's an extrovert and I wouldn't understand since I'm an introvert. Then I found out she had saved some guys' numbers under girls' names in her contacts, and she claimed it was so I wouldn't suspect her of cheating. I read through her chat logs and found out she's been flirting with these guys, even sharing some explicit stuff with one of them. She'd chat with them late at night, around 2 am, when I'd usually be asleep after work. She'd told me about this guy at her office who was hitting on her, and I'd told her to either complain or directly reject him. But it turns out they'd been talking a lot on WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat, and even on calls. When I confronted her, she said it was all casual and she didn't have any real feelings for them, only for me. Now she's crying and saying she'll die without me, and her mom knows about our relationship too. I've told her elder sister about all this, but she thinks I should give her another chance. When I first found out, I needed some time to process everything, so I told her I needed a month to figure things out. But now that I'm sure she's been cheating, I've told her I want to break up, and I'm not sure what to do about her saying she'll die without me
you're 23, you'll find someone else again, just remember that she's a compulsive cheater if she's doing it just for attention
that's called manipulation, dude - both guys and girls use that line. cheating is cheating, and if you've done it once, you can do it again, especially when you're so manipulative and don't even acknowledge your mistakes
you should definitely break up with her, she's clearly been cheating and now she's just trying to manipulate you and make this all about her. ignore her tantrums, because even if you give her another chance, there'll be trust issues and more arguments, so you might as well just leave
i think deep down you already know what to do, man - just get it over with. it's 2026, and i'm not taking any second chances, especially not in a long distance relationship. she did all this on purpose, so forget about second chances and forget about her
1. don't give her another chance, and 2. don't worry, she won't die - she's probably got a backup plan already and will jump into another relationship in a few days
once a cheater, always a cheater - never give second chances
bro, you're 23, in a long distance relationship, covering all expenses, and she still cheated on you. 'only for attention' is just a classic cheater excuse. move on, you dodged a bullet
please, for your own good, leave her. there's no going back from this
not worth it, dude - she's not the one for you, and she won't change. it's like expecting someone who's killed before to not kill again, or someone who's raped before to not rape again. it'll happen again, so just leave. i'm speaking from personal experience
i just hope you know that people rarely change their patterns for anyone, so do what you want with that information