Earlier, even financially independent women seemed to prioritize a man's financial stability before marriage – I saw this with my cousin's sisters years ago. But now I notice rich guys getting rejected, and women care more about a man's personality and behaviour. I'm not talking about rural areas, just the corporate crowd in metro cities.
Take my cousin, heir to at least 75 crores. He's the only child, works in the family business, but he's not good looking – he's overweight, bald, looks 40 at 30, has no hobbies, can't hold a conversation and is boring. The rishtas he gets are from rural families for a housewife, but he wants an educated, earning woman, and they all reject him. Some families try to persuade the girls, but they don't budge.
Then there's my friend who works at a FAANG company, earns well and is decently good looking, but he's arrogant and his family is misogynistic. I visited his house and saw women treated like doormats. His family expects dowry and wants the daughter‑in‑law to move to their city in a joint family. Even though he's wealthy, smart corporate girls aren't willing to marry him after meeting him, while he still gets rishtas from rural families where the girl is unemployed.
So in my circle, girls are now focusing on how a man carries himself – his personality, behaviour, dressing and grooming – rather than just money. There are still some women after financial stability and a lifestyle upgrade, but most are rejecting men, no matter how rich, if their values don't match.
I'm happy to see this shift. Women are clear about what they want, they can earn on their own, and they want a partner for companionship. It's also pushing men to hit the gym, groom themselves and improve conversation skills.
Well, this is bound to happen as women become more educated and independent. It's good for society – if all you can offer is bad company and money, women will find plenty of that. Money can open doors, but your personality is what keeps them open.
This is happening to some extent. My next statement may trigger many people: the harsh reality is that most (not all) will still pick a guy with money and average personality over a man with great personality but less money. That's a cold hard truth about our society.
I see men are happy staying single.
Doesn't look like that. Out of your ten girlfriends, how many are married to men with earnings and net worth equal to or less than theirs? Ask ten recently married women and check yourself. Earlier they wanted rich guys and ignored other things. Now they want rich guys with personality and a half‑dozen other things. That's the change.
Oh, you're back again with your engagement‑farming fictional anecdotes.
Wow! If this is true, society is finally healing!
The OP has a knack for spinning fake stories that stir tension and hatred between men and women here. Looks like a frustrated woman who has nothing better to do.
Nice to hear. All the women in my circle want money. They say money is important for the present and the future, and personality is needed too.
I guess only those who truly understand the value of independence think like this.
OP is just spitting whatever pops into his fictional mind.