I recently found a bunch of intimate videos and pictures of my husband with his past partners, and I also saw he's still chatting with some of them. I had a feeling something was off because messages kept popping up. When I asked him he said it's nothing, just friends. We've been married for one year, and I feel deeply uncomfortable and disgusted by what I saw. It has shaken my trust in him and I don't know how to handle it or what to do next. I'm really struggling emotionally. Has anyone been through this, and how did you decide whether to try to work it out or go for separation/divorce? Divorce isn't easy as families are involved, but I'm so repulsed by him and his words and actions feel fake. He even has separate folders for each girl's pictures and videos.
Get the marriage annulled or divorced right away. You have the proof, so file it quickly and free yourself from a liar and manipulator. Are those women married as well?
Gather all the proof first and take a stand for yourself.
First, record everything and keep the proof safe, then file for divorce. He's not only cheating on you, but you could also catch STDs and it could affect your health. Sometimes we have to make tough choices, and this is your chance to get away from him and start healing.
Consider divorce before you have kids.
Please get out as soon as possible. Sorry, but your husband seems like a piece of work.
Don't get swayed by the drama that will follow.
Divorce, please.
First, stay safe and avoid confronting him directly. If I were you, I would file for divorce and get tested for STDs, especially since you suspect ongoing infidelity. Your husband is not trustworthy and could become physically aggressive if he finds out you're leaving. Pack your belongings discreetly when he's not home and go to a safe place like your parents' house. Inform trusted family members and friends about the situation. Take screenshots of any pictures and download the videos as evidence. If needed, send the evidence to a trusted relative. Contact a divorce lawyer as soon as possible. Please prioritize your safety and well-being and avoid direct confrontation. He will only learn why you left when the divorce papers reach him through the lawyer. Good luck!
Also gather evidence of him still being in contact and having sexual relations. The videos might be old and chats may not be explicit, so collect evidence as comprehensively as possible.
Make sure none of your own videos are stored on his phone. If they are, delete them. Then you can decide the next steps.