My wife has not had her period since we got married, I am really clueless about what to do now
Hi, I am a 30 year old guy who got married in December 2024 to a 27 year old woman, and even though she says she got her period in January 2025, I have my doubts. The thing is, she has not got her period since then, and when I took her to see multiple doctors, they told us that she has Premature Ovarian Insufficiency, which means she will never get her periods again. Now I am really stuck about what to do with my married life, I genuinely feel that her family knew about her condition all along and did not tell us, which is why whenever I bring it up with her mom, she just says it is destiny and that everything is in god's hands. I feel like if they did not know about it, they would not give up so easily, but since they are so casual about it, it seems like they knew all along and just want me to accept it. Also, my wife never really talked about her periods before we got married. Her medical condition is not something that just started, it has been going on for a while, and her hormone test results are really bad. My mom thinks I should get a divorce, but I do not have the heart to ruin both our lives, at the same time, I feel like I am in a really tough spot right now, I have no idea how I can live like this, I did nothing wrong, all I wanted was a normal happy married life, but instead I got a lifelong problem to deal with. Please help me figure out what to do, I really cannot take this, and the feeling that she and her family lied to us is really bothering me, I am scared about what will happen to our lives.
I do not know much about this, but does this mean she will not be able to have kids?
Should you not go see a doctor first and find out what the next steps are, I mean I just searched it on google and it seems like it is treatable, also if she hid it from you, that was not right on her part.
You should not be asking these kinds of questions on this forum, most people will just tell you to get a divorce, you should go see a marriage counselor near you, it is going to be tough no matter what, just be a man and make a decision without listening to your mom or people on this forum, just you and your partner.
Your mom is right, if this was not disclosed to you before you got married, you should definitely get separated.
It is not about whether this condition is treatable or not, it is about the fact that she hid it from you and lied to you, how can you trust someone who does that, you should go see a doctor with your wife and figure out what to do next.
Marriage is a pretty scary thing, man.
This forum is not the right place to be asking these kinds of questions, you should just go see a doctor and figure it out between the two of you, no one else needs to be involved, also if you want kids, you can always adopt.
Dude, when you get married, you do not get a report card on the person's future, when you marry someone, you marry them as a person, not their situation or goals, you do not have to play victim, you want to spend your life with that person no matter what, you guys can always adopt a kid, basically your mom in law is right in a way, but this generation is not ready to accept such things, everyone wants everything to be perfect.
Hiding a medical condition is not right, but now you should focus on finding a solution, go see a specialist.
If you feel like you are compatible with your partner, have a strong bond, and think you can make it work, you will figure out a way, you feel deceived and cheated, but what is the guarantee that the next person you marry will be perfect, your mom, her mom, or your parents will not be with you all the time, it is your partner who will be with you, and this is tough for her too, both physically and mentally, she will not be able to have her own kids, on the positive side, you can adopt a kid, have fun without protection, and other things, ask yourself if you can see a peaceful life with her, will getting a divorce solve all your problems?