I'm feeling really low and needed to get this off my chest.
I'm 29, did my BCom, and started working in 2021 with a salary of 25k per month. Over the years I've worked hard and now I'm earning around 65k per month. I know it's not huge, but it didn't come easy either.
The problem is constant comparison from relatives.
There's this one relative whose son studied in the same school as me. He went on to do an MBA (his family is financially very well‑off, so they could easily afford it), and now he's earning around 1.5 lakh per month as an Assistant Manager.
Recently, at a family gathering, that relative basically put me down in front of others, comparing our salaries and achievements. It was humiliating. Ever since then, I can't stop thinking about it.
I already know my job (KYC analyst type role) doesn't have massive growth, and yes, an MBA could help—but the reality is I have family responsibilities and can't just stop everything or take a big financial risk right now.
What hurts the most is not even the money gap—it's the constant judgment. I've started feeling anxious about attending family functions because I know I'll be compared again.
I feel stuck, demotivated, and a bit scared about my future.
I don't know what to do. I feel I am going into depression because of this as my father has to hear those things as well.
Bro, 65k is quite well off, and yeah, ignore those relatives.
I'm 23, earning 10k with a BBA degree; 65k still feels like a dream salary for me.
65k is good, ignore the nonsense.
As a BCom graduate, 65k looks massive to me. How did you land your first job? I've been unemployed for the last two years and just need a starter job that pays around 15k so I can at least support myself. I'm also a BCom grad, class of 2024.
Can I DM you?
Bro, you're 29—ignore those relatives. They don't know your struggles. After getting the job you have to take care of family, while your cousin doesn't because he's rich. Just ignore the people who compare you; everyone is different.
Hi friend,
Did posting this help you get it off your chest? Do you feel a bit better?
Keep in mind: if you were earning 3 lakh per month, those same relatives would start comparing everything—your looks, marriage prospects, company brand, and so on.
That doesn't mean you have to feel stuck or demotivated.
Will you really give others' opinions permission to disturb your peace of mind?
Best wishes!
No one's path is the same, nor their access to resources. Don't mind them and keep at your job or upskill and switch.
I'm 30, earning 30k. I started working in 2016 at 9.5k per month and now I'm at 30k. I feel ashamed.
Bro, it's never too late to start something. You can try professional courses like CPA, CIA, CFA, CMA, or even CA. It'll be tough, but if you plan well and it interests you, go for it. Life isn't fair, but you should give your best even if it means pushing hard. Sometimes a family that isn't financially strong needs at least one generation to outwork the rest to secure the future. By the way, ignore those relatives.