So we were together for three years. Things started going off track when I noticed her mood changing, we fought over tiny things and she kept expecting a lot from me.
One night we went out for chai and invited a common friend. From the start I felt something was off. On the way back a bike kept following us. I tried to ignore it but it stayed behind us. I asked my girlfriend if she knew the rider and she replied, "mujhe kya pata kaun hai."
Then a thought struck me. Just before a turn I sped up, and the guy did the same, so I chased him. My girlfriend was on the back seat and almost lost balance because of the speed. After a minute or two I stopped and went home. Before entering I snatched her phone.
She didn't want me to check it, but I unlocked it with Face ID and locked myself in the bathroom while she kept knocking. When I finally looked, I saw she had shared her live location with that guy and their earlier chats were already deleted.
I realised she had been talking about me to him – he was her colleague. I left right away. She kept calling, but I didn't answer.
Two days later she came to my place and said she wanted me to meet him because he was "just a good friend" and she didn't want me to suspect anything. I asked why she never introduced him before. If she had, I wouldn't have refused to meet him. We sort of cleared the air that day, but I still felt uneasy, so I started monitoring her.
I logged into her WhatsApp Web and read her messages. Every picture she sent me, she also sent to that colleague. I waited for the right moment.
Within the same week we fought again. As I expected, she messaged him, saying we fought, that I abused her and that she felt lonely. They talked on a call – I don't know the details – but later she asked him to come over and bring condoms.
I waited and then went to her house. I caught them together. The guy tried to run out through the terrace, but I grabbed both of them. I fought the guy while she just said, "main behak gayi thi."
Since then she keeps trying to call and cry, saying she made a mistake and will do anything I say, begging to fix things. I haven't blocked her, but I've ghosted her.
We were planning to get married. That guy was also in a relationship. I even moved to Bangalore because of her, and she still complained I wasn't putting enough effort, even though I work remotely. He had only entered her life two months ago.
It's been really traumatic. She keeps calling, crying, promising to change. I've ghosted her for now, but it still hurts. She betrayed everything we built just for a bit of attraction or lust.
Yaar, the dating scene in Bangalore is total mess. I'm fine being single, will get married someday and love my waifu.
As the great Future once said
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I can only imagine how tough it must be for you. I hope you're not planning to forgive her, especially since you still haven't blocked her. Thank god you discovered this before the wedding.
Is cheating really that common nowadays? I can't wrap my head around it. I've never experienced it, not even among friends of friends.
Luck is on your side.
Just exit.
Her crying isn't your fault.
It will still hurt you.
Delete her from your life.
Itna behekna kisi ke liye achha nahi hai.
If she keeps contacting you again and again, that's mental harassment. Protect yourself.
'Mai behak gayi thi' is exactly what my ex‑girlfriend said when she confessed cheating. People don't change, bro. Don't forgive her – break up and move on.
Be glad you escaped before you were about to get married.
Man!!! Damn! Keep ghosting her, let her struggle to contact you and change your house key if she has a duplicate. Never engage with her again even if she asks for 5 mins.
Man, reading that you moved to Bangalore for her hit me hard. There's something off about that city – maybe the air or water – because girls there often end up cheating. I also moved to Bangalore for a girl, stayed together for over three years with both families aware, and she cheated with a guy she barely knew after six‑eight months. She would lie after fights or create random scenarios, even though we rarely fought, and we were practically living together.
After I caught her, I left her, quit my job, left that dead‑end city and returned home. Ghosting her was the right call; I'd suggest you block her and consider therapy (I did). It's been four years and I still talk about it, but I don't miss her at all.
Things will get better. Focus on work, hang out with friends, and find happiness within yourself. Life's too short to stay stuck.
Don't go back to her. You invested a lot of time and your feelings were genuine, so just move on. I know it sounds easier said than done, but think about it – after marriage she could just say 'bhatak gayi thi' again.