I've been going to the same mall for groceries and random stuff for the past 2 years. There's this girl who works at a beauty brand store right near the entrance. Over time we started noticing each other - a lot of eye contact whenever I walked in. I'd only spoken to her a couple of times before, just basic stuff like asking for directions or where something is.
Around 3-4 months ago, I went to her store to buy a makeup gift for my sister for Rakhi. We had a nice conversation that time, but it was still pretty professional.
After that, every time I went there, the eye contact continued and felt... kinda mutual?
Last week, I needed to buy sunscreen, so I used that as an excuse to actually talk to her properly. We started with the product talk, but then it naturally turned into a more casual convo. We spoke for like 10-15 minutes, just normal stuff, nothing forced.
Before leaving, we exchanged Instagram handles and followed each other.
I didn't want to come off as desperate or creepy, so I waited a few days and then sent her 1-2 messages with a simple "Hii". She didn't reply. I figured she might be busy at work, but even later there was nothing.
It's been 2 days now and she hasn't even seen the messages.
Now I'm overthinking - should I just unfollow and take the hint?
Also, I'll obviously keep going to that mall for groceries. So when I see her again, do I:
- act normal and casual?
- maybe tease lightly about it?
- or just completely ignore and move on?
TL;DR: Talked to a girl at a mall over time, finally had a good convo and exchanged Instagram. I messaged her after a few days, she hasn't replied or even seen it in 2 days. Not sure if I should unfollow, move on, or still talk to her normally when I see her again.
Just unsend your message. Upload a good pic of yours and see if she likes or comments. You've already started the conversation, now it's on her. Let it be. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Maybe she has a boyfriend or some other commitment. Unsend your message and wait. Next time you see her, just smile gently and move on. Don't force a small talk; she'll get the hint.
Just act normal. No need to go out of your way to talk to her or unfollow her. If you see her, give her a smile and a wave and keep it moving. It's not that deep. However, if you end up talking, don't pretend the ghosting never happened. If it comes up, you can acknowledge it but don't make it seem like it affected you (because it really shouldn't).
I mean, just a 'hi' sounds pretty boring, to be honest. You could've added something, but anyway she isn't responding. Upload some story or post and see if she interacts. If she views the story, it means she's active on Insta; maybe she just doesn't use it much.
Start listening to Future.
Try sending something she can actually respond to. For example: 'Hi, thanks for the sunscreen recommendation. Tried it yesterday and it worked well. You're really good with skincare! This summer I realised I need to start taking care of my skin. Any more recommendations? I'll pay you in ice cream for your help!'