I'm a 26‑year‑old guy in the middle of an arranged marriage process and I have a worry I'm not sure how to handle.
To be clear, I'm below average in size 'down there', but I'm otherwise perfectly healthy and have no problem with sexual function.
I know it may sound like overthinking, but I really don't want to ignore something that could affect long‑term compatibility. At the same time I don't want to sound inappropriate or make her uncomfortable, especially since she comes from a respectable, fairly traditional family.
So I'm confused about a few things:
- Should I bring this up before marriage?
- If yes, when is the right time to discuss it?
- How do I raise the topic respectfully without it being awkward?
I believe honesty matters, but I also don't want to ruin a potential match by talking about something so personal too early.
Would love advice from anyone who's been through an arranged marriage or has a practical view on this.
Thanks.
If she asks, just be honest. I don't think it matters much; it really depends on the individual.
A doctor or sexual‑health professional will tell you size isn't a big factor. Do some research before you worry yourself or scare her away; it can become an unnecessary fixation that hurts confidence and the relationship.
How do you even know you're below average? Most people only see a few D‑sizes in their lives, maybe just one, and that could be you. So why worry? In sex both partners need to connect. If you're not focused on her pleasure, size doesn't matter.
No one will ask, so there's no need to bring it up with the prospective bride. Many men with smaller size have happy marriages and children.
Work on your skills, use your imagination and be open to trying new things. Most women won't even complain about size.
If it's truly a micropenis, you should discuss it openly. If it's just slightly below average, you can probably let it be.
I'd suggest not telling every girl you meet in the arranged‑marriage process. When you're serious – say after meeting 3‑4 times before engagement – then you can tell her.
Yes, it does matter. I'm not sure exactly when to tell, but you should definitely bring it up.
P.S. If anyone tries to DM me with creepy messages, I'll make sure yours shrinks. Only those with tiny... stay away from my DMs.
What matters is your skill, not the size. Most women don't climax from penetration alone – porn is fake. Learn to use your mouth and fingers. Don't let this turn into a complex.
My husband confessed his issues a month before we married. I was already in love, so it didn't matter. He learns quickly and isn't shy about trying anything I suggest. Even with his shortcomings he makes me scream every time.