Same as the title. Call me a gold‑digger if you want, call me a pseudo‑feminist, I don't mind.
Let me share my experience. I truly loved a guy when I was 16‑17. At that age most boys are students and broke, so that was fine. I supported him even when he treated me badly, left and right. I kept supporting him for about 3 years, even after we broke up and he graduated. He couldn't get a job, ignored me, ghosted me, and never bought me a single gift or ordered food. I was okay with that. Eventually I had enough of his nonsense and left.
The next relationship wasn't the usual love‑butterflies; I was just giving it a try. He was also super broke. He asked me to pay back every penny he spent on dates, lol. He body‑shamed me because he felt insecure about not being able to provide (I was just 2 kg overweight). The whole thing was about 80‑20 in my favour when it came to spending. He even made me delete shopping apps because my habit made him "insecure." I used to cover his transport costs too. It ended when he expected too much and, frustrated, said I wasn't "feminine" enough. I replied that he never let me be feminine. We broke up.
Then I dated a guy online for 18 days. He had zero cash, spent less than 1k on me, had a 30k credit‑card debt, no job, and wanted sex 24/7. He would say things like "You don't appreciate my morning wood" (I even have a screenshot). I'm 29, unemployed but I have studies and work. He could afford sexting at 11 am, but I couldn't.
I gave up on dating and focused on myself for a few months. Three days ago I matched with a cute guy on Tinder (my friend told me to reinstall the app). He's not broke, earns well, busy like a real adult, and even offered to pay for shopping even though I refused. He doesn't demand sex 24/7; he appreciates me for who I am and isn't desperate. It's my first time dating someone financially stable and I'm like, "Is this really fun?" It's been three days and I'm having more fun than ever. Money isn't the main factor; emotional maturity, mental baggage, and a fragile ego are what I can't handle any longer. I don't know how long this will last, but at least it won't traumatise me financially.
So why do men want women to date broke men? Build yourself first, then get a woman. You can't expect a 10/10 woman while you're a 3/10 man. That's just sad.
Men won't even think about talking to a woman who doesn't fit their 'requirements'. Yet when they do find someone, they expect her to have zero requirements, zero expectations, and just settle for 'love'. I don't know where they get that audacity and entitlement.
Broke‑men propaganda, lol. I spent on dates, gifts, everything, and my college boyfriend never gave me a birthday present or even a simple letter to appreciate my effort. He was broke because of his own habits. It's not just about being broke; it's about lacking ambition and still being prideful.
So they can find a girlfriend to support them during their broke days, then dump her as soon as they become successful.
Exactly, what they really want is a financial backer – someone who can fund them under the excuse of struggle and future security. They show you dreams like "once I'm settled, I'll marry you", then they dump you. There's no acknowledgement for what you did, and you end up as a side character in their life. The world glorifies their struggle and hard work while you fade into the background.
When I was in college, my best friend, whose dad was a bank manager, started dating a guy from a rural background, the son of a labourer. He wasn't handsome at all. I never got their chemistry, but she loved him. She paid for all their dates and everything.
He promised marriage and lifelong commitment, then got a private job paying 25k per month right after college. He changed completely – started ignoring her and flirting with other girls.
My friend, like me, wanted a government job, so she was unemployed at that point. He broke up with her, said horrible things, and his mother – an illiterate village woman – called her a gold‑digger. He even spread rumours about her character.
I once chased him on the main road and beat him up with my umbrella in public.
Moral: Never date a broke low‑class man. They'll call you a gold‑digger and throw nasty names.
Because they don't want to spend on you and want everything from you, so they glorify it.
I understood one thing here: it's not just about money, it's what comes with money. Money brings happiness, and the higher the income, the higher the mentality. People with less money aren't as progressive as those with high income. Money is a lifestyle. WOAH, thank you, ma'am. I've never dated and I'm not interested; I'm focused on my career in the Armed Forces.
And they call their demands 'needs'. I've seen people have the audacity to ask women to pay for their parents' lifestyle instead of theirs.
The real question should be "Why do women want to date broke guys?" What do most women see in their mediocre boyfriends and husbands that makes them brag like they hit a jackpot? Broke men get sex and money (depending on their whining skills) when they date women. I'm not talking about splitting expenses. Some men borrow pocket money from unemployed girls and abuse them. It's highly beneficial to them and you already know that. Why are you asking this? ????
In my experience, only broke men label women as gold‑digger, lol.