We've been together for 9 months. She just got a new job and keeps talking about this one guy – they go for coffee at the office, have snacks, and she chats about him every day. I really don't like it. A while back she told me I'm not allowed to have a female bestie or a work bestie. I told her she should stick to the same rule. I asked her what's going on and she says he's just a funny colleague and I shouldn't worry.
I even looked up his profile and feel I'm better than him in most ways. My insecurity and possessiveness only grew. Some of her friends hinted she might have cheated in her previous relationship. There was also a problematic guy at her workplace who didn't know about the boyfriend thing. Her last relationship was rough with misunderstandings and sexual issues, maybe that's why (if she did cheat). But right now I can't figure it out. Sex is great, I take her out, she shows love and cares. She's high‑libido and a people‑pleaser, very easy to bend.
I'm confused about what to do now. I don't know how to deal with all this.
Bro, just tell her you're not okay with it. It's not her job to decide how you feel. If you can't set boundaries early, it's probably over. No shame in walking away.
Bhai, usse clear baat kar le is baare mein... nahi toh baad mein aur zyada hurt hoga (waise first phase katne ka).
Bro, the easiest fix is to move on and find a new girlfriend. When she asks why, repeat exactly what she told you and see how she reacts. If she still brags about him, ask her straight, 'Do you think your guy friend won't want to be with you if you spread your legs?' Watch her reaction. Be firm and clear, bro – you'll end up with many girls in your life.
The best thing you can do is talk to her about your insecurities and see if she makes you feel heard and understood.