It's been three months since I started dating a guy I met about six months ago while traveling. We exchanged numbers and he's been visiting me every one to two months. On his last visit we became intimate, and I was comfortable with it.
What shocked me was that he sent a picture of a condom packet to his friend on WhatsApp using the 'view once' feature. He had actually asked me if he should send it after his friend sent him a video of something he'd always wanted to see. I just wanted to be sure he'd use it himself, so I politely said something like 'as you wish' or 'you decide'. The next moment he sent the picture! I felt devastated and violated. I didn't want to talk to him or even look at him, but I didn't want to ruin the day, so I just let it pass.
Honestly, it's pretty normal for guys to share stuff like that, not a huge issue.
If you both are serious, it's not okay. If it's just a casual thing, some guys think it's normal, but for me it's not acceptable in either case.
I'd say this is a common trait of men who aren't serious about a woman. If he's serious, he wouldn't do it because it hurts a woman's dignity. Talk to him calmly if you're serious, otherwise just move on like it was a bad dream.
Bro, he literally asked whether to send a pic of a condom pack – nothing intimate – and you were fine either way, now you're upset because he did? What's wrong with society?
Anyone who says 'it's normal for guys' is being foolish. That kind of behaviour just reinforces bad habits in men. It was disgusting and shows he doesn't respect you. A man who truly cares wouldn't disrespect his girlfriend like that.
A gentleman never kisses and tells – feel free to interpret that however you like.
It's a totally creepy move and can have serious consequences – I've seen it happen with my ex, and that's a long story.
He asked you if you didn't want him to send the pic – you could have just told him directly instead of overthinking.
Just sit and think about it.
Girl, just run.