After two years of dating we booked a hotel, hoping I'd be a rockstar in bed. I had a little to drink and things got heated – foreplay, kisses, both soft and wild. I got hard at first and thought, 'let's go for PIV.' When I tried to put it in, it went soft! I tried again, got hard, then went soft midway. I felt really embarrassed, but she told me it's okay. She probably hadn't faced this with any ex, which dented my confidence. After a night of make‑out and sleeping naked we went out. Back home I started overthinking my whole existence, wondering if something's seriously wrong. I googled and found that regular porn, alcohol, overthinking and performance anxiety can kill your 'commando.' We met again in the morning, made out, and this time I stayed hard longer. We eventually had PIV, but it wasn't like the movies. Finding the right angle was a struggle; some positions just didn't work. I could make her moan, but it didn't last long. Maybe my phimosis made the tip extra sensitive. The big takeaway: stop expecting real life to be like porn. Sex is way more than that – foreplay, cuddling, laughing, and it certainly doesn't last an hour straight. You take pauses, you might lose your hardness, and if your partner makes you feel guilty about it, you should think about changing. Just wanted to vent and hear thoughts from experienced folks.
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My boyfriend faced the same issue, eventually sorted it out, and now he even offers consultations as a side gig.
It happens to most people, you're not alone, bro. Don't overthink or question yourself. Nervousness and anxiety play a big role, so it wasn't your fault. Just relax and enjoy.
Consider cutting down on porn and masturbation for now.
I went through the same thing. It's often due to a tight grip during solo play, and porn can make the mind crave that specific stimulation.
Watching porn and masturbating affected me in the same way.
Bhai, today I finally had sex.
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Sorry to say, but she might have been faking the moans.
It's normal, and you'll improve with time.
PIV? I know the abbreviation but what does it stand for? I liked how you shared the whole experience in detail – it's great to see real stories. I haven't had my first yet, so I'm not sure how it'll go.