TL;DR: I'm confused why I can't move on or what exactly to do with my feelings. I'm a 31‑year‑old male, she's 27. Met a girl on a matrimony site, connected on Instagram. We chatted daily for 3‑4 months, met 4‑5 times and even stayed together once. There was emotional connection, physical intimacy and regular communication.
At some point we had a harsh argument and I said something rude about her past. It was a misunderstanding, I apologized twice, but she said she couldn't get over it and we broke up. That was six months ago. Since then my confidence is shattered; I feel low and think I won't find anyone else.
Recently I messaged her casually. She was polite and friendly, but ignored my requests to meet (twice). She had removed me from all social media, then sent a friend request after a friendly chat. I don't know how to proceed. I'm anxious and sad every day. I feel talking to her will only push her further away, making me look like a loser who can't move on. I can't focus on anything right now.
One sentence can break a person. Accept it and move on. It'll be tough for her to come back from that.
What exactly did you say to her? A lot of context is missing.
Write down whatever you want to say on a piece of paper, then send it to her. Wait for a response; if she doesn't reply, it means she's not moving on.
Men often end up breaking the things they cherish most. I feel you, bro. You've taught us a lesson about empathy and respect for a partner. With that said, I hope you can make amends with her. All the best.
If you want to move on, just block her and move forward.
It could be that she still has some feelings, otherwise she wouldn't have sent a friend request. Don't assume that a man initiating always makes the relationship work; maybe she's waiting for you to take the lead.
Speaking as a woman, I can understand her side. If she hated you, she wouldn't have replied. Removing you from all platforms was likely her way of showing how hurt she was, not a sign of hatred.
Take things slowly, see how she responds, then decide.