Hey folks, I'm a 23‑year‑old girl dating a 23‑year‑old guy. Things are nice, we're both pretty kinky. At first I thought we were just after sex, but he meant a lot more to me, yet I felt he didn't like me that much. It's been a year now, still no labels. He also doesn't want any label and calls it an open relationship, though neither of us is seeing anyone else right now. We meet and have sex because we live in different cities. Sometimes he pushes me to try things I'm not sure I'm comfortable with—2g1b, video sexting, 1g2b—and I don't know how to keep him away. He keeps saying I'm the best time of his life and no one can replace me sexually. It's confusing because sometimes I think he's with me just for the sex.
[edit] People think I'm only after sex, but we're not in a polygamous setup; the lines are just blurry. I don't want to mess around and I haven't slept with anyone else, so please stop judging me.
Feeling jealous, to be frank.
He's clearly not interested in you romantically. If you're that into him, consider stepping back before it hurts more later. He only wants sex, which is easily replaceable, and catching feelings will just make things rough. Be very cautious. Don't do anything you don't want to. Express your feelings clearly and if they're not returned, move on.
I don't get how some people are ready to share their partner's sexual intimacy with someone else. If you feel the same, welcome to the club! Talk to your partner about this; if he truly loves you, he'll be considerate and won't push you into those things. If he's not willing to empathise, sorry, but he's only after sex.
How many clear hints do you need, lol? That said, you're also in this just for that purpose.
Hi cutie, first figure out what you want from him and what you're looking for. Understand yourself first. Then tell him what you need. He knows what he wants from you, and he's following his own life plan.
Ask him if this is going anywhere meaningful. I don't think it is, and it's better for you to get out of this sexual relationship if you're falling for him. If you don't end it now, coping with your emotions later will be much harder.
Yeah... break up with him.
Don't understand why people turn sex into a habit. The body needs it, but it should come with some fun and emotions, not just for the sake of it.
Is all this happening in India?
This is so common nowadays. People jump straight to the physical side and only later wonder—does this person actually like me for who I am? Also, if you're feeling confused and unsure, that's already an answer. When someone genuinely likes you, you don't have to keep guessing where you stand.