How can anyone deal with a partner watching other women's sexual content on Instagram? There's this new Instagram feature that shows the account's viewing history. We share passwords, and I recently caught my boyfriend looking at other girls' profiles. I thought maybe the algorithm showed it by mistake, but I saw multiple videos from the same account in his history, then more girls doing thirst‑traps or in bikinis. It disgusted me. I always tell him I feel insecure and can't imagine being with someone who cheats or watches porn, and he says he hates such men too. Now I see he's the same. I confronted him yesterday and he blamed me, saying I'm the reason he watches that stuff when he's frustrated with me! I was shocked. While on a call, I checked his history again and saw him watching massage videos, yet he kept saying he wants a vacation with his friends. I don't know what to do. I felt so disrespected, like I'm being cheated on. For context, I'm from the Northeast and he's North Indian. I never thought he'd be with me just for lust. Seeing so many East‑Asian girls in his history makes me doubt his love. I really loved him; we just celebrated our 4‑year anniversary two weeks ago.
One word, one syllable: leave.
Your boyfriend is a terrible person and this counts as cheating. Pack your bags and get out of his life. No one deserves this. Blaming you is a classic move to derail the conversation and make you feel insecure. A person who uses your insecurities against you is one of the worst. Many people fetishise North‑Eastern men and women because they look 'exotic', not because they like them as individuals. Take time to heal, work on your insecurities, but first throw him out.
Your boyfriend is a cheater. Leave him and his 'hot' Instagram girls.
We have good intimacy. Honestly, I don't feel sexually satisfied much, but he does. I do everything he asks and love making him feel good, so sex is never an issue. In fact, he climaxed three times the day before yesterday, so I don't think it's an intimacy problem.
You both are young and beautiful with a whole life ahead. If you can't trust him anymore, end it.
Step 1: Make yourself strong—emotionally and physically—to handle the pain.
Step 2: Face the truth—confront him when you catch him.
Step 3: Have an open conversation instead of arguing.
Create a safe path for yourself.
Is there really an Instagram history feature??
Sorry to be blunt, but your boyfriend sounds like a pathetic guy. Watching other women, whether promiscuous or not, is unacceptable in a relationship, especially after he pretended to hate such men. I'm not telling you whether to leave, but please rethink this. You deserve someone who makes you feel good, respects you, and is genuinely attracted to you, not just for show. Take care.
More power to you. Him watching such content while knowing it makes you uncomfortable is completely wrong. Consuming a lot of porn in a relationship is cheap, and he tried to manipulate you when you confronted him. Short answer: break up.
What a chhinar.
Come on, dude, it's just porn. You're overreacting!
First off, sharing passwords with a partner is a huge mistake; it breeds toxicity and destroys digital boundaries. Your feelings are valid. The 'algorithm' excuse works only if he scrolls past something, but watching multiple videos from the same thirst‑trap account is intentional. He knows your insecurities and still does it—pure disrespect. Confront him clearly about this boundary, and if he gets defensive instead of apologising, you need to rethink the relationship. You shouldn't feel ugly or insecure because of his cheap actions.