I am 27, just started the AM process. While scrolling through matrimony apps I see many girls, aged 25+, with very basic education, and their profiles say they are currently unemployed and not planning to work. Some are 28, 29, even 32. It looks like their parents didn't give them enough education or the permission to work and live independently, and they also haven't been able to find a life partner, so these women are left single at a relatively high age with no clear personality. This kind of hypocrisy is hurting the core of Indian society. We could be so modern, but we seem to be moving backwards. I don't like seeing those profiles, though I understand why they are the way they are.
It's not just a gender thing, men face the same issue. Most men are brought up to work hard and be the provider, but they often lack basic social skills and don't know how to treat a woman. Then they start calling each other "simps" and the like. The Indian society has let us down, and the damage is equal on both sides.
Listen, many girls voluntarily quit their jobs to appear as ideal housewives, and after marriage they start throwing tantrums about household chores. Some women who failed in their careers see marriage as a backup plan, hoping to survive on their husband's money. Go out, meet people, and get some fresh air. It's not the parents' fault if you're not working at 27‑29. Yes, some women get married early, at 21‑22, and then parents deny them higher education like PG or PhD, which is wrong.
This isn't really about arranged marriage, just my personal take. If you think only earning money counts as work, you don't get the full picture. The real problem is the mindset that only paid work has value, while support, caregiving, and building a family are seen as lesser. That's a shallow view. Many people enjoy comfort today because someone else is doing unpaid or less visible work behind the scenes. Paid work itself isn't a permanent proof of worth – industries change, layoffs happen, jobs disappear, but that doesn't erase the value of the work done. So, especially when talking about women, don't reduce their contribution to just a salary. Women have always shouldered the work of shaping families, raising children, and holding homes together – some of the hardest and most foundational work there is.
Edit: Some of those profiles you mention could be fake, so stay cautious.
They make the best wives. Girls with fancy degrees and jobs tend to create more drama and tension in marriage.
You're totally off. A lot of these girls just take their dad's money for college, then spend time partying, having casual sex, travelling and living a life they think is better than working like a donkey. Nothing wrong with that, not hating anyone. All you see is the illusion of a simple, homely girl, and parents and people like you get fooled easily. We rent rooms to about 20 girls from different places who are preparing for govt exams and college – almost all follow the same pattern. Their parents think they're "sanskari", lol.
That's a majorly wrong observation. If you talk to girls who aren't marriage candidates, you'll find many aren't overly ambitious and would be fine being housewives or doing modest jobs. They still hold the old mentality, and it's not about education. Many of them were top rank‑holders in school, have good colleagues, and hold bachelor's degrees. They simply have the option to become housewives, which men don't get.