Is it just me, or has the marriage market hit rock bottom? I'm looking for a total sanskari man, but it feels like men these days have no values left.
Where is the guy who will wake up at 5 am to make me fresh chai and poha without me asking? I need a husband who knows his place – in the kitchen, of course. Someone who has never looked at another woman, doesn't have a career (who needs that stress?), and spends his free time folding laundry and seeking my mother's blessings.
He should be well‑educated, sure, but he'll quit his job after the wedding because his primary duty is the sanctity of the home. If he wants to hang out with friends? Sorry, that's a distraction from his dharmic duties to his wife.
I'm so tired of these 'modern' men wanting 'rights' and 'equal partnerships.' Just give me a soft, domestic, obedient boy who keeps his head down and his rotis puffed.
Is a little tradition too much to ask for in 2026? Or are men just getting too 'bold' these days?
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There's nothing wrong with having a preference! Men these days are too modern! Our fathers were the last generation of innocent men!
Bare minimum
This thread will age like fine wine!! Bring it on.
I'm 44. In my 20s, I was called the 'mad' woman for expecting equal treatment despite having equal education and a job. My parents, in‑laws and everyone tried hard to 'tame' me. I fought battles alone, spent most of my life being labeled a bad daughter, bad wife, and bad bahu for standing up against poor treatment just because I'm a woman. New nonsense every day. I'm exhausted.
Now, after a 15‑plus‑year battle, my husband finally sees sense. I've cut off my in‑laws and both of us have minimal contact with parents and siblings because of ongoing toxicity.
I'm here to offer support and advice. It's refreshing to see the next generation of women choosing themselves. The deep‑rooted hypocrisy in our culture must be called out.
Agreed. These men are too modern these days. Always wearing shorts, jeans, pants, etc. I wish we could truly preserve our culture like our fathers and grandfathers did.
Not at all! This is the bare minimum a man should be expected to give. Nowadays men follow shirtless Instagram influencers and think that makes them superior. Rare are those few who realise how fake social media is, and a family will thrive only if its members are docile and obedient, something their children can learn from them!
Also, a patnivrata man who doesn't feel the need to constantly visit his own parents. Now his home is my parents' home too. He should focus on our home, not his parents' house.
A man with these qualities is husband material; the rest are only good for a fling.
You forgot to mention that he should also be a virgin and fair‑skinned.
My sanskaari husband should also massage my feet, listen to my parents' asks and demands even if he doesn't like them, never raise his voice or be moody, stay modest – always in kurta‑pajama and dupatta. He needs to pray to the deity daily and celebrate every festival with me and my family.